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Why I’m Thankful for Your Chaotic Home
I recently dropped off my two little ones at a friend’s house before heading to work. As she opened the door, she greeted us with a smile and said, “Sorry about the chaos!” I stepped inside to see toys, books, and blocks scattered across the living room in that wonderfully disordered way that only kids can create. It was a scene I was all too familiar with from my own home.
Now, I won’t assume how my friend felt, but “sorry about the chaos” is the phrase I often use when I’m feeling a bit embarrassed about my own living space. It’s what I say when I feel a twinge of anxiety about how others might perceive my home compared to their spotless abodes—even behind the toilets (let’s be honest, who really enjoys that chore?).
I admire my friend’s confidence and calm demeanor; she probably didn’t feel any of those insecurities when she acknowledged her mess. But if you do feel that way when friends come over, I want to share how I felt upon arriving.
Before I even stepped inside, I was so grateful that she was taking care of my children while I focused on my writing. I appreciated having an adult to converse with, and I knew her sweet boys would brighten my kids’ day by including them in their play. No clutter could change my appreciation for my friend.
Once I was in her home, it felt like I was being welcomed into her inner world. Her willingness to share her mess with me was a sign of trust. The people I feel closest to are those who see me at my most real—messy hair, sweatpants, and yes, even dirty dishes. I long to embody that same openness with others, but honestly, my pride sometimes gets in the way.
When another mom shows her true self by letting me into her chaotic space, it’s one of the greatest compliments. I feel honored and want her to know how much I respect her for it. So, if I come to your place and it’s a bit messy, just know we’re in this together.
Feel no shame, mama. You don’t need to apologize for the chaos. We’ve all been there! Speaking of being there, if you’re interested in learning more about home insemination, this post is a great resource. And if you’re looking for an authority on this topic, check out this link for more information on artificial insemination kits.
In summary, messiness is part of life, especially when kids are involved, and it doesn’t diminish the value of friendship. Let’s embrace the chaos together!