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I grew up in a devoutly religious family where church was a staple of our weekly routine — not just Sundays, but several times throughout the week. My parents led Bible studies and engaged in daily devotionals. While this was my normal as a child, now that I’m an adult with my own family, I see their religious fervor as extreme. My partner and I identify as agnostic and have decided not to raise our children in the same manner. This choice has deeply disappointed my parents, who have gone so far as to claim I’m condemning my kids to eternal damnation for not being “saved.” They are loving grandparents who adore their grandkids, yet every visit feels like a sermon where they attempt to indoctrinate my children.
With Easter around the corner, I dread the family gathering and the inevitable comments about our lack of church attendance. I would feel like a hypocrite if I went to services, but I also want my kids to enjoy their time with their grandparents without the pressure of religious discussions. What should I do?
Advice
To play devil’s advocate, your parents are likely coming from a place of deep concern for your family’s spiritual wellbeing; they don’t mean to be judgmental. It’s akin to watching a loved one refuse help — it can be distressing for them.
However, your beliefs and how you choose to raise your children are private matters. It’s time for a candid conversation with your parents. Approach this discussion gently, expressing understanding of their intentions while firmly establishing your boundaries. Acknowledge their dedication to their faith but clarify that it doesn’t align with your family’s values. Make it clear that their attempts to impose their beliefs only drive a wedge between you, which is not what anyone wants, especially since they are otherwise great grandparents.
If gentle discussions don’t yield results, you may need to set firm limits. Let them know you value their presence in your lives, but only if religious topics are off the table. It’s essential that they respect your stance.
In the meantime, educate your kids about differing beliefs, so they don’t feel ashamed when faced with their grandparents’ warnings. Explain that there’s a broad spectrum of beliefs, and they can love their grandparents without adopting their views.
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Summary
This piece addresses the challenge of managing familial relationships when your beliefs diverge significantly from those of your parents. It emphasizes the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and teaching children about diverse perspectives to maintain healthy family dynamics.