Dear Preemie Mom,

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I see you. I see you feeling lost and anxious as you leave your little one in the hospital, where they’re getting the help they need after arriving too soon. I see you jotting down notes while the doctor explains the endless array of machines and beeping sounds surrounding your tiny miracle. You’re trying so hard to absorb all that medical jargon, but your gaze keeps drifting back to your baby in her isolette, wondering when you’ll finally get to hold her.

I see you making that daily drive to the hospital, determined to soak up every precious moment with your little one. I notice your shoulders droop as you gear up for another long visit, knowing you’ll have to leave again.

I see the joy on your face when you finally bring your baby home—a time filled with excitement but tinged with worry. You can’t help but wonder if you can care for her as well as the doctors did. Am I enough?

A few months later, I see you celebrating the fact that your baby is with you every day, yet feeling overwhelmed by how much attention she needs. It’s all about appointments with doctors, specialists, and therapists. Your life now revolves around schedules and check-ups, and while you remind yourself to be grateful for how far your baby has come, that frustration still creeps in. Why did your little one have to struggle so hard? Why is this your family’s journey? These questions haunt you daily, and the answers never seem to come.

I see you at a birthday party for a friend’s child, a little one who was due around the same time as your baby. Your smile is genuine, but it’s different now. You feel joy for your friend, but it stings to see how far behind your own child is.

I see you crying late at night, consumed by guilt, worry, and anger. If only you could’ve kept your baby inside a little longer… if only you had pushed for another check on that scan… if only you hadn’t indulged in that extra cup of coffee or whatever you think might’ve contributed to her prematurity. I see the blame you place on yourself, wishing you could somehow fix this mistake.

I see you saying no to invitations—playgrounds, lunches, and more—because you’re terrified of your little one getting sick. Doctors have warned you that this first winter is crucial, so you find yourself hunkered down at home, knowing that it will all be worth it come spring.

I see you packing your diaper bag—yours looks a bit different. It’s filled with hand sanitizer, extra oxygen tanks, and masks to keep germs at bay. You enter the grocery store like a soldier preparing for battle—assessing risks, trying to finish quickly, and praying everyone stays healthy.

I notice you hesitating when someone asks how old your baby is. You know that revealing the truth will lead to a barrage of questions, and you’re exhausted from answering them. But telling a different age feels like a disservice to all she has fought through. So, you navigate that tricky balance, giving different answers depending on the situation.

I see you questioning whether you’re the right kind of mom for your baby. You think about how someone else might handle all the therapies and special arrangements better than you could. You reflect on the life you had before—maybe you used to work but now you’re home, or maybe you wish you could stay home but you have to work. It’s not the life you envisioned when you dreamed of being a mom.

I wish I had the answers for you. I really do. But I want you to know that you are seen, and you are not alone in this journey.

With love,
A fellow Preemie Mom

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Summary

This heartfelt letter addresses the challenges and emotions faced by mothers of premature babies, acknowledging their fears, frustrations, and moments of joy. It emphasizes the importance of community support and understanding during this complex journey of parenthood.