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Kids and Stress: What’s the Right Amount?
Watching little Mia playact as if she’s stressed out like an adult is both adorable and eye-opening. She has her own ideas about what triggers stress and how she might react. But the truth is, when kids face stress, they often struggle to identify what’s bothering them or how to respond appropriately. Their growing minds and bodies mean they’re especially vulnerable to the harmful effects of intense stress.
These days, we usually think of “stress” as something negative. However, Dr. Hans Selye, who coined the term back in 1936, defined it as “the non-specific response of the body to any demand for change.” From this angle, stress can actually be a normal and even beneficial reaction to challenges. A little stress can help kids learn to navigate new situations and adapt to life’s surprises. This “positive stress” is brief, leads to slight physical changes, and can support a child’s growth when managed well.
On the flip side, excessive stress—often referred to as “toxic stress”—is detrimental to a child’s physical and mental development. Long-term stressors, like abuse, neglect, or witnessing violence at home, can put children at risk for a range of serious issues. According to the CDC, chronic stress can weaken the immune system, impair memory, and even reduce IQ levels. These are just some of the consequences of the significant neurological disruptions that occur when kids are repeatedly placed in uncontrollable, harmful situations.
It’s important for parents not to panic about their kids experiencing some stress; what matters is keeping it to a healthy level. More intense stressors, like divorce or the loss of a loved one, can be managed effectively if the child has the support of a caring adult. Research indicates that even toxic stress can be mitigated or reversed with a stable and responsive adult presence.
Love plays a crucial role here. When children are surrounded by a stable environment and supportive adults, they learn to handle stress in a constructive manner. It’s completely normal for your child to throw a fit over a vaccination or cry for a while when they’re learning to sleep alone. That’s just positive stress, and it’s all part of growing up.
Mimicking parents is a vital part of development too—so while I chuckled at Mia’s little dramatics, I happily served her a tall glass of apple juice with lunch.
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Summary:
Understanding the balance of stress in children is crucial for their development. While some stress can be beneficial, excessive stress can lead to harmful effects on their growth and well-being. With supportive adults around them, children can learn to cope with stress in healthy ways.