Dear New Mom,

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First off, let me assure you that you are not:

• Crazy.
• Alone.
• Failing at this.

Remember that moment when you were worried about childbirth and thought, “Hey, millions of women have done this before”? Well, guess what? Millions of women have also felt just like you do right now. I can’t read your mind, but trust me, we’ve all faced the overwhelming challenges of being a first-time mom. You knew it would be tough, but did you expect it would be THIS tough?

And those seemingly perfect moms on social media who rave about every single second spent with their newborns and claim they love changing diapers at 3 AM? Let me let you in on a little secret: they might be exaggerating. They could be blocking out the chaos because it’s just too much to handle. Honestly, having a newborn can be pretty rough.

Just hold on a second while I brace myself for the backlash. Waiting… waiting… Okay, seems like I’m safe for now.

Don’t get me wrong—newborns are adorable. Those tiny toes, the sweet smell of their hair (just avoid the other end), and those little fingers curling around yours are heart-melting. But let’s be real: the first few weeks can be a whirlwind. I remember when I had my first baby, Mia. The initial two weeks felt manageable because she mostly slept, and I thought, “Yay, I’ve got this!” But then it hit me—WOW. No one prepared me for the reality that followed, and why would they? When I was pregnant, I was blissfully unaware, so who would have dared to pop my happy bubble?

People would jokingly say things like, “Sleep now while you can!” when they really should have been saying, “Get ready for a whole new level of exhaustion.” I mean, have you seen a POW in a movie? They’re kept awake with loud music, and that’s pretty much what it feels like to have a newborn! Except, instead of a loud soundtrack, you have a baby wailing every few hours (if you’re lucky). Your only option is to pamper them endlessly. Even when you do everything right, they’ll still wake you up again before you know it. And again. And again.

On top of that, your hormones are all over the place, making you feel like a pinball machine. If you’re breastfeeding for the first time, your nipples might feel like they’re being set ablaze. Not breastfeeding? Your breasts might feel like they’re about to burst, and there’s no way to turn off the tap. And let’s not forget the unsolicited advice from well-meaning relatives that can drive you up the wall.

I just wish someone had told me that those first days of parenthood can be a challenge. It would have reassured me that I wasn’t alone or failing. I would have known that it gets better, although not always easier.

So, congratulations on your new baby!!! I hope you get through these early days knowing you’re not losing your mind, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not doing a bad job.

With love,
Someone who’s been there and is now using more than one type of birth control—because I love my kids, just not another newborn right now!

If you want more tips about home insemination, check out this link for a different perspective on parenting and family planning. Also, if you’re considering at-home insemination, you can find a great resource at Cryobaby At-Home Insemination Kit. And for more information on pregnancy, take a look at UCSF Center for Reproductive Health.

Summary: This letter is a warm and candid message to new moms, acknowledging the challenging reality of first-time motherhood. It emphasizes that feelings of overwhelm are normal, and reassures them that they are not alone in their struggles. The author shares personal experiences to connect with the reader and offers supportive resources for both parenting and home insemination.