Dear Friend,

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Let’s talk about something that happened to me recently that I think many parents can relate to. Last weekend, I took my kids for bagels after swim class, and as soon as we reached the counter, my little one spotted some cookies. I knew I was in for it.

“Cookie!” he shouted, his little finger pointing like it was a magic wand. “COOKIE!”

I tried to stay calm and explained that a bagel with cream cheese was plenty for breakfast, and we could save cookies for later. Unsurprisingly, he didn’t take that news well. He shook his head and started screaming “No!” which made it clear that trouble was brewing.

Just then, a kind stranger behind the counter decided to swoop in and save the day by offering my son a giant cookie. “Here you go, buddy! A cookie on the house!”

Now, here’s the thing: I’m not one to reward bad behavior, especially not when it comes to my kids. But being the second child, my son has a knack for pushing boundaries, and after a long morning of wrangling two kids and dealing with swim gear, I was exhausted. I figured it was easier to let him have the cookie than deal with a potential meltdown amidst a line of bagel enthusiasts. So, I bit my tongue and let him enjoy his treat.

A Note to Well-Intentioned Strangers

To all the well-intentioned strangers out there, I get that you want to help, but please understand that I have a plan in place—even if that plan is just to keep my cool while my toddler has a mini-meltdown. If you see my kid throwing a fit in the cereal aisle or rolling around on the floor at Target, please don’t:

• Hand him a lollipop or cookie while implying that I’m the mean mom.
• Promise my daughter that if she behaves, I’ll buy her overpriced toys.
• Give me a judgmental look as if I’m about to get reported to Child Protective Services because I won’t let my toddler have something shiny he’s grabbed off the shelf.

When you step in, you disrupt the boundaries I’m trying to set, and it teaches my kids that if they throw a fit, they’ll get rewarded. Instead, a sympathetic smile would mean the world to me as I navigate the chaos of parenting.

And honestly, if you really want to help, slide me that cookie when the kids aren’t looking. After all, unlike my pint-sized negotiators, I’ve definitely earned it!

Further Reading

If you’re interested in more parenting insights, you might find this post helpful. Also, if you’re curious about home insemination, check out this excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination.

In summary, while it’s great that people want to help, it’s important to respect the boundaries parents set for their kids. A little understanding goes a long way, and sometimes, all we really need is a moment of peace (and maybe a cookie).