8 Misconceptions People Have About Moms

In today’s world, the classic family image of a dad working while mom casually bakes pies and enjoys her day is as outdated as floppy disks and dial-up internet. The family landscape has transformed, and the variety of lifestyles is vast. Yet, some people—often fellow moms—still make sweeping assumptions when they first meet other mothers. Here are eight common misconceptions:

1. The Misconception: You’re in a Traditional Marriage.

The Reality: The number of married couples is on the decline, with single moms—be they divorced, widowed, or never married—almost matching the number of traditional stay-at-home-mom families. Plus, same-sex and polyamorous families are on the rise. So, next time you ask a new friend about her husband’s job, remember, she might have a wife—or two!

2. The Misconception: You’ve Been Pregnant.

The Reality: Many moms today build their families through adoption or surrogacy, meaning some women can be moms without ever being pregnant. You could also be a stepmom or in a partnership—there are countless ways to earn the title of “Mom.” So, think twice before commenting on how a baby looks just like her mother—it might not be as it seems.

3. The Misconception: You’re All Washed Up.

The Reality: While parenting can be a mom’s crowning achievement, it doesn’t mean her passions and dreams have faded. Many moms juggle careers, hobbies, and interests outside of family life. So, engage your new friend about her aspirations—there’s so much more than just reminiscing about the past.

4. The Misconception: You Don’t Wash Yourself.

The Reality: Sure, many moms joke about not showering for days and living in chaos, but that’s not the whole truth. Most mothers strive to keep it together and balance their responsibilities. Show me a mom who genuinely lives in squalor, and I’ll show you another mom who is thriving.

5. The Misconception: You’re a Self-Sacrificing Saint.

The Reality: Yes, kids require a lot of attention, but that doesn’t mean moms neglect their own needs. There’s strength in a good babysitter or a much-needed break. Moms may take time for themselves less often post-baby, but those moments are essential. So, if your new friend wants a night out, she deserves it—just don’t be surprised if she’s ready to fight for her dessert!

6. The Misconception: You Aren’t Cool.

The Reality: Anyone who knows me will tell you I practically invented cool, and I know plenty of other amazing moms who can say the same. We’re fierce and fabulous, and we’ll defend our kids and our snacks. Keeping up with this level of awesome? Not for the faint of heart.

7. The Misconception: It’s Always Wine O’Clock.

The Reality: This stereotype is just plain wrong. Not every mom drinks wine—some prefer whiskey or gin, and others don’t drink at all. So, ease up on the wine jokes; there are plenty of other beverages to joke about!

8. The Misconception: You Shop at Target.

The Reality: Let’s be honest—this one holds some truth. Some stereotypes are real, so just roll with it!

Next time you meet a new mom, remember to skip the clichés and get to know her for who she really is. And while you’re at it, if you’re interested in learning more about home insemination, check out this insightful post on our blog.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to get dinner ready for my kids—yes, including the two I didn’t give birth to. I wonder when my partner will be home from her long day at work.