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My Daughter and I Appear to Be from Different Races. Here’s What I Experience
You know those mornings on the subway when I haven’t had my coffee yet, and people start making assumptions about me and my daughter? Well, let’s break down some of those observations into a few quirky categories based on my totally unscientific experience.
The Friendly Glance
You’ll see these folks in all shades, and they tend to give us a look that lingers just a bit too long. Sometimes, I even catch a “What’s up?” smile from them. My daughter and I probably remind them of their own diverse families or friendships. Young people, in particular, seem to be more open-minded, so they’re just like, “Awesome!” and I respond with, “Right on!”
The Liberal Stare
Then there are the over-35 crowd, often the gentrifiers. We probably share similar beliefs, but their lack of a genuine smile or that awkward “Oh, sorry!” expression tells me they’re a bit uneasy. It’s like they’re half-accepting us with a 70 percent “that’s cool” and a 30 percent “what’s going on here?” It reminds me of the mom from my daughter’s old Brooklyn school who kept repeating, “I can’t believe she’s your child!” Seriously, lady, save me the eye rolls.
The Confused Smirk
Now we get to the awkward part. Usually, it’s an older passenger or a tourist who gives me a quick glance, but then their eyes fixate on my daughter for the rest of the ride. The real discomfort kicks in when they realize I’m not her nanny. That’s when the disapproving look comes my way. Some seem offended, like I’ve somehow betrayed my background by having a daughter with a “white guy.” Others just look perplexed, like I’ve turned their world upside down, challenging their rigid ideas about race.
How do I handle all of this without becoming part of the spectacle? Well, any mom on the subway knows you have to be vigilant, and I’ve got my guard up and a few tricks up my sleeve. If you don’t fit into my categories, maybe you just think we’re adorable. If that’s the case, thanks! But please, a little courtesy would go a long way.
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In summary, navigating the world with a child who looks different from you invites a variety of reactions—from warmth to confusion. It’s a reminder of how complex and beautiful diversity can be. And while it can be challenging at times, it also opens the door to meaningful conversations about race and identity.