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Would You Forgive $40K in Child Support?
Navigating child support and visitation with an ex-partner can be a real challenge, especially when it comes to money. What do you do if your ex isn’t able or willing to keep up with the child support payments? Should you restrict their access to the kids as a way to make them pay? According to writer Mia Thompson, that approach might not be the best one.
In her piece for a popular parenting site, Thompson reflects on her ex-husband’s difficulties in paying his court-ordered $600 monthly child support and how it shaped their family dynamics. She notes that often, non-custodial dads are reduced to their financial contributions. “It’s so easy to label someone as a ‘deadbeat’ if they fall behind on payments,” she writes. “This can lead to serious consequences like losing their driver’s license, having their bank accounts seized, or even jail time.”
Thompson highlights the unfortunate reality that a child’s access to their father can hinge on his ability to pay. Instead of tying her ex’s visitation rights to his financial obligations, she chose to focus on alternative forms of support. For instance, when he couldn’t pay, she asked him to help out in other ways, like babysitting or fixing things around the house.
She emphasizes that child support isn’t just about money; it also includes emotional support and a father’s presence in a child’s life. “It’s essential for my kids to maintain a good relationship with their dad, regardless of my feelings about him,” she explains.
In a profound moment, Thompson decided to forgive $38,750 of unpaid child support so her ex could visit for their daughter’s middle school graduation. She realized that holding onto that money, which she likely wouldn’t see anyway since he had moved back to England, was only going to cast a shadow over a pivotal moment in her daughter’s life. “I just want my daughter to enjoy her graduation without the worry of her dad being arrested,” she said. “Three hours and $38,750 were worth it for that.”
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In summary, the complexities of child support can lead to tough decisions, but focusing on the emotional well-being of children can make a world of difference. Forgiving large debts to foster positive relationships can truly be priceless.