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Free-Range Parenting: A Neighbor’s Perspective
You might have heard about the Meitiv family, often referred to as the “free-range kids,” who have found themselves in the spotlight after being reported to Child Protective Services for letting their kids roam around their Maryland neighborhood unaccompanied. Until now, I felt nothing but sympathy for these parents trying to raise independent children and wondered if their nosy neighbors were just overreacting.
However, one local resident, Sarah Jenkins, offers a different angle on the situation. She points out the media frenzy, including the family’s appearance on a popular morning show, and she’s not thrilled at being labeled as a meddlesome neighbor. “We don’t have gangs of snitches hunting down free-range kids in our community,” she asserts.
From what Sarah has gathered from 12 parents who know the Meitivs, the kids seem perfectly normal but have caused some concern. There have been instances on the playground that required adult intervention, moments when drivers had to slam on their brakes to avoid accidents, and even a time when the kids needed help finding their parents at a local festival because they had lost sight of them.
Sarah argues that free-range parenting often calls for the involvement of other adults whether the parents like it or not. In one instance, a stranger walking his dog saw the kids wandering alone and, after hesitating to approach them, decided to call the police instead. This illustrates that the Meitivs’ parenting approach affects not just their family but also the wider community.
I totally understand what they’re aiming for, though. My kids are just a little older than theirs. My daughter recently started middle school, which is when we decided to give her a cell phone and let her explore our neighborhood independently for the first time.
Last weekend, the kids wanted to attend a play at the local high school and insisted they could go by themselves. It’s only a 15-minute walk, so after some discussion about who would be in charge and the importance of behaving well, we gave them the green light. They loved having that independence, even with some guidelines in place. Sure, I remember being much more free to roam as a kid, but I don’t need to recreate my childhood. I just want to make decisions that feel right for me.
Having a cell phone gives me peace of mind when I let my son go out, but I would want my neighbors to step in if he ever got into a jam. Honestly, if he were picked up by the police even once, I’d have to seriously reconsider my approach. It must be tough for those kids to deal with being questioned by authorities and knowing their family is under scrutiny.
As one neighbor put it, “If you see two kids alone in a parking lot, what do you do? Just ignore them?” Maybe it’s time for the Meitivs to think about how their choices impact others instead of expecting everyone to understand their perspective right away.
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In summary, while the Meitiv family is advocating for free-range parenting, the reality is that their choices involve the community around them. It’s essential to find a balance between independence and safety, both for their kids and for the neighbors who care about them.