“I Won’t Allow My Partner to Leave Her Job,” Claims Man Who Aims for “Better” for Her

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As time goes on, more of my friends are encouraging their partners to leave their jobs and become stay-at-home parents. Sure, being a stay-at-home mom or dad has its perks for the whole family. But I want more for my partner.

This sentiment kicks off a piece titled “Why I Won’t Let My Partner Quit Her Job,” featured recently in a popular publication. Jake Thompson believes he’s helping his partner by essentially compelling her to work when she may not want to. When a partner starts making decisions for the other instead of collaboratively discussing them, that’s a red flag.

He praises his partner’s achievements, noting how she juggled college while pregnant. “She graduated with honors, managing a full-time job and a baby,” he states. So, she’s clearly accomplished. Yet, he somehow assumes she’s incapable of making her own choices. He expresses concern when a second pregnancy arrives, feeling like she’s just “settled” into her role.

Jake mentions his partner’s inquiries about quitting her job to stay home with the kids, claiming she was eager to focus on family life. And honestly, after all her hard work, that’s understandable. But he doesn’t seem to be listening. He wants her to keep working, fearing she might lose her ambition. “I respect those who find fulfillment in being stay-at-home parents; I just have different aspirations for my partner and our child,” he says.

While he believes he’s aiming for “more” for her, he’s actually undermining her autonomy by imposing his vision of strength upon her. It’s almost like he thinks he’s a hero for women’s rights, but in reality, he’s taking away her choices. If the roles were reversed and a woman wrote this, she’d likely be labeled as domineering.

Feminism is fundamentally about making choices, just like freedom. Jake seems to think he’s a champion for women by wanting his partner to work. In fact, he’s dismissing her desires. By his own admission, he’s ignoring what she truly wants and treating her like someone who needs direction, which is not what a partner is about—especially someone who graduated while raising a child.

He even worries about being a role model for their daughter, saying, “We don’t encourage her dreams of becoming a trophy wife or stay-at-home mom.” If he truly wants to set a strong example, he should reflect on the message he’s sending. And while he’s at it, he really ought to stop seeing his partner as a child needing guidance.

Marriage is about partnership. If you find yourself feeling comfortable making significant life choices for someone else without their input, then you might want to reconsider who you’re really making those decisions for.

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In summary, the discussion around partnership and autonomy in relationships is crucial. When one partner makes unilateral decisions, it undermines the very foundation of collaboration and respect that a strong relationship needs.