10 Things to Avoid Saying to a Working Mom

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Hey there! So, let’s chat about some things that really shouldn’t be said to a mom who juggles a job outside the home. Recently, I stumbled upon a list that got me thinking about the well-meaning comments that can sometimes come off as a tad rude. No one intends to offend, but some phrases carry a hint of judgment that can leave working moms feeling a bit defensive. Here’s a rundown of what not to say, along with a friendly reminder that each mom’s choice is valid, whether she’s at home or in an office.

1. “Can’t you afford to stay home?”
   Let’s just assume for a second that I can’t. What if I’m working to help pay the bills or save for our kids’ future? This question can really put us in an awkward spot. And even if I could afford to stay home, my reasons for working go beyond finances. I want my kids to see that women can pursue careers too. Plus, I like the balance it brings to my marriage when we both contribute. So, let’s skip this one.
2. “I’d do anything to get away from my kids for a day.”
   If that’s really how you feel, I can help you polish your resume! But working means more than just “escaping.” It’s a constant balancing act with guilt on the side. Not to mention the morning mayhem that comes with getting everyone ready for the day. It’s more like a triathlon than a spa day, trust me!
3. “I’d miss my child too much.”
   I totally get it! But sometimes, you have to push through it because you have a job to do. It’s not easy, but we manage because we love our kids.
4. “The issue today is that not enough moms are home raising kids.”
   I hear you, but if you’re really passionate about that, how about advocating for better parental leave or flexible hours? It’s not just about moms staying home; it’s about supporting all parents in making the best choices for their families.
5. “Why have kids if someone else is raising them?”
   This one stings. I wanted to be a mom and I’m actively involved in my kids’ lives, even if I’m not physically home all the time. We have wonderful support, and that doesn’t take away from our parenting.
6. “I don’t know how you do it. It must be hard.”
   Yep, it is hard! Parenting is tough no matter what, whether you work or not. We’re all just doing our best here.
7. “You must be super organized to balance everything.”
   Ah, if only! Sure, I try to be organized, but I’m just one misplaced set of keys away from chaos. There’s no perfect balance—just a lot of managed mayhem!
8. “These early years are so precious; there’s always time to work later.”
   Every year is precious! And why is this sentiment only directed at moms? Dads are just as involved and deserve recognition too.
9. “You look exhausted.”
   Thanks for the kind reminder! How about a spa day instead? Oh wait, I have a kid to take care of. Let’s just ignore the bags under my eyes, shall we?
10. “At least you cherish every moment with your kid.”
    Well, maybe not every moment. Some days are pure chaos! But yes, I treasure my time with them, just like any other parent would, even if I’m not home all day.

And yes, I worry about missing out too. But those sweet moments when my child runs to me make everything worth it.

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In summary, let’s be a little kinder with our words and remember that every mom’s journey is unique. Whether she’s working outside the home or not, we’re all doing our best to raise our children.