15 Things Experienced Moms Wish They Could Share

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Becoming a mom feels a lot like navigating a high school cafeteria. You’ve got the put-together moms who seem to have it all together at one table, while the breastfeeding moms cluster together, and the formula-feeding ones hang out elsewhere. The sleep trainers swap war stories at their own spot, while co-sleepers enjoy their own solitude. Meanwhile, attachment parenting advocates can be found wearing their babies at the corner table. And let’s be honest, there’s always that moment when a new mom drops her tray, and everyone else can’t help but gasp and share knowing glances.

But let’s get real—this whole “Mommy Wars” narrative is tired and outdated. We’re all in this together, and many of us have forgotten what a warm meal even tastes like. If given the chance to speak, most of us wouldn’t waste our words judging others, especially not newcomers. The truth is, when a seasoned mom sees a newbie struggling with Froot Loops spilling from a van, it’s not judgment she’s feeling; it’s nostalgia.

So, in the spirit of camaraderie, here’s what veteran moms really want to share:

1. It’s totally fine that your car looks like a snack graveyard. Just yesterday, we found half a sandwich lodged between the seats.
2. Sure, we’re impressed by those healthy, organic meals you whip up, but if your kid’s diet consists of pickles and candy, don’t sweat it. We’ve been there.
3. The best high? That feeling of your little one snuggled up against you. Thank you, oxytocin! And no shame if you skip that night out for a cozy cuddle.
4. If you’ve thought about getting a taxi cab just for the soundproofing, you’re not alone. We’ve all considered it.
5. It’s normal to get a bit misty-eyed tossing out the nasal aspirators when your toddler can finally blow their nose. Milestones sneak up on you!
6. Don’t feel bad if you do the sniff test on your clothes before washing them. A little spit-up? If it’s not crusty, it’s fine for errands. Go green!
7. When you hit the gym, we totally understand if it’s really all about the childcare. No judgment here.
8. Your homemade cleaning products are amazing! We didn’t notice when you switched to Clorox during that stomach bug—which was definitely not hyperbole.
9. Don’t doubt your strength just because you can’t take that lollipop away from your toddler. They have an iron grip on that candy.
10. If you’ve thought about suggesting a birthday vasectomy for your husband, no shame in that game!
11. Embrace those moments when your kid takes Time Out as a chance to be creative instead of reflecting on their behavior. Enjoy the peace!
12. We still think you’re stylish, even if you’ve rocked Cheerios in your scarf and a chocolate smudge on your cheek all day.
13. We admire your quick thinking when your kid asks about pubic hair in a public restroom. Keep those details private!
14. Telling your child that their favorite character is on vacation isn’t lying; it’s self-preservation.
15. Still wearing that nursing bra? No problem! There’s no rush for a fitting. One change at a time!

Motherhood is a shared journey, and instead of focusing on the differences, we should celebrate our collective experiences. If any judgmental types come your way, just thank them for their insights while maybe hiding the fact that you’ve got some baby poop under your nails. Welcome to the club!

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