20 Life Lessons for My Newly 20-Year-Old Friend

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My eldest kid just hit the big 2-0, and I’m not sure how to process that. It feels like just yesterday I was at that age myself—cramming for a Shakespeare exam, in a cozy little college room that I can still picture vividly. I even remember the quirky thrift-store blouse I wore, feeling all sorts of ironic. Those were the days filled with hope, dreams, and a little nostalgia for a lost sweater.

I’ve gathered a few life lessons from my own journey that I hope will help my now-adult child navigate the world. So here’s my friendly advice for you, as you step into this exciting new decade:

1. Brew Your Own Coffee. Save those bucks you’d spend at trendy coffee shops and invest them instead.
2. Texting Games. If someone isn’t replying, it’s not a strategic move; they’re simply not interested.
3. Negotiate Your Worth. Don’t hesitate to ask for a higher salary. If they want you, they’ll find the budget.
4. Roommates Can Be Tricky. Sure, they might label their snacks, but living alone can teach you a lot about yourself. Plus, you’ve got a guitar to keep you company!
5. Dance Like No One’s Watching. Whether solo or with friends, crank up the tunes. Your neighbors can handle a few minutes of Violent Femmes!
6. Condoms Are Essential. No further explanation needed.
7. Avoid the “Follow Your Bliss” Trap. If I did that, I’d be living on a beach with no roof over my head. Instead, seek a career that makes you excited to get up every day.
8. Embrace Naps and Baths. Integrate them into your routine now—trust me, you’ll miss them later.
9. Bathroom Breaks Are Golden. Never pass up a chance to use the restroom. It’s a lifesaver!
10. “I Need More Time” Doesn’t Equal Love. If it’s not working, don’t be afraid to walk away.
11. Try Making Spaghetti alle Vongole. It’s easier than you think! Just remember the clams and some wine (if you have any).
12. Say No to White Bread. Unless you’re in Paris—then indulge in those gorgeous baguettes!
13. Doctors Aren’t Always Right. Trust your gut. If something feels off, get a second opinion or just give me a call for some friendly advice.
14. Choose Your Partner Wisely. Red flags are often early warnings. Don’t rush into cohabitation just because of timing.
15. Travel Before Settling Down. Do it now, while you can still pack light and go on adventures.
16. Invest in Quality Clothing. A few lasting pieces are better than a closet full of trendy but flimsy items.
17. Life Has No Roadmap. Choose your own path, even if it’s foggy and uncertain.
18. Use Creative Workarounds. A grocery bag can be wrapping paper, and a peanut butter sandwich is a perfectly fine meal when you’re in a pinch.
19. Name-Calling is Never Okay. Stand up for yourself if someone tries to insult you.
20. Stay in Touch. I won’t be around forever, and I love you deeply. Remember that even when things get tough.

Each of these lessons comes from my own journey, and I hope they guide you well. And if you’re looking for more insights on family planning, check out this great resource on intrauterine insemination. It’s also worth exploring this informative post about home insemination kits, which can be resourceful for future decisions. And if you want more ideas, Make a Mom covers a lot of ground on this topic.

Summary

As you step into your 20s, embrace these life lessons from your mother. They encompass everything from financial wisdom to personal growth, aiming to help you navigate adulthood with confidence and grace.