To All the Moms of One

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Hey there, fellow moms! I totally get where you’re coming from. Like many of you, I feel a twinge of discomfort when I hear terms like “only child” or “only child syndrome.” It’s tough when people jump in with their opinions about why you should have more kids, suggesting it’s selfish not to give your little one a sibling.

You might have just one child for a variety of reasons: maybe you faced secondary infertility, or perhaps you had just enough resources for that final IVF round. Maybe the journey to your first child was so long and challenging that the thought of doing it all over again makes you cringe. Some moms have gone through rough births or dealt with postpartum depression. Then there are those who simply feel that one is perfect for their family.

Whether you believe one child completes your family or secretly wish for another but can’t have it, it’s absolutely fine. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

I know what it’s like to steer the conversation away when acquaintances feel the need to share their thoughts on your family size. You never asked for their input, yet they feel compelled to weigh in. I’ve been there too, listening to the list of reasons why one child isn’t enough, from backhanded compliments to outright insults:

• “You really should give them a sibling! Who will help take care of you when you’re older?”
• “Who will play with them? Won’t they be lonely?”
• “You have such beautiful children, you have to have more!”
• “Money shouldn’t hold you back! Just go for it; it’ll all work out.”
• “Can’t you see how much they want a brother or sister? It’s so sad for them.”
• “The second one is a lot easier, trust me.”

It can feel isolating when society seems to overlook families of three. But contrary to what some may think, your child is not missing out; they have a loving family in you. Having a sibling doesn’t guarantee a friendship, just as being an only child doesn’t mean loneliness. In fact, studies show that only children can be more independent, creative, and driven. Why do we focus on the negatives instead of celebrating the unique positives of every family?

I believe this says more about others’ insecurities than about your choices or abilities as a mother. At the end of the day, whether having one child is a choice or a circumstance you’ve accepted, just remember that you’re not alone, and your child won’t be either. The number of kids you choose to raise is a deeply personal matter, and it really isn’t anyone else’s business. You are just as courageous as any other mother out there.

You are enough, and so is your one and only!

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Summary

This piece offers reassurance to moms of only children, acknowledging the societal pressures and unsolicited opinions they face. It emphasizes that one child can be enough and that families come in all shapes and sizes, celebrating the unique bond between parent and child.