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Creating the Perfect Playroom: A Lesson in Connection
I created a playroom for my son, pouring my heart into it, but it turned out to be not quite what he wanted. I lovingly arranged his toys in vibrant bins, organized his books by language (since my partner speaks to him in Spanish), and even set up his stuffed animals in a playful stadium seating style. When I stood back to take it all in, I felt proud of the transformation. This space would allow him to run around, and soon, his twin sisters would be able to join in the fun.
When he came home from camp, I had a friend there to capture the moment we unveiled the new playroom. His excitement was palpable as he cheered, “Thank you, everyone!” He dove into playtime and spent a fantastic two hours down there while I tackled unpacking upstairs. What a win!
But then came Tuesday; he returned from camp and wanted to play downstairs again. I thought I had really nailed it, earning myself the title of Mother of the Year! That is, until just five minutes later, he emerged upstairs. I was at my computer, trying to catch up on some emails when he climbed onto my lap.
“Mama, I just want to hug you. Mama, I just want to kiss you. Mama, I just want to sit on your lap,” he pleaded.
“Please, sweetie, just a few more minutes. Can you wait for me downstairs?” I responded.
“No, Mama. Come cuddle with me downstairs.”
He didn’t want to be alone down there anymore. He wanted my presence, my voice, and my warmth. The playroom was great, but it didn’t replace the connection he craved.
So, I threw my hands up in a mix of laughter and acceptance. I went downstairs, where I quickly dozed off on a cozy bean bag chair, only to be woken by his hugs, kisses, and the occasional knee landing on me as he jumped around. Those little knees won’t be small forever, and I realize that soon enough, he may not want to cuddle with me. But today isn’t that day.
For now, no amount of toys or fancy playrooms can substitute for the love and attention he seeks from me. I may have built him a playroom, but all he really wanted was to play with his mama.
Further Reading
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In summary, while creating the perfect playroom for my son, I learned that his need for connection and love far outweighed any desire for toys or space.