Making a Mom Friend: Just Like Dating

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So, it finally happened. I encountered that elusive gem known as the Chill Mom at the local playground, and we exchanged numbers. I had heard stories about this rare event but never thought it would actually happen to me. Finding other moms to vibe with feels strikingly similar to dating, and just the thought of it makes my palms sweat.

There we were, sharing laughs about the quirks of our little ones, discussing how exhausted we both are, and marveling at the lovely weather. Out of the blue, she pulls out her phone and says, “We should definitely connect!” We swap numbers, say our goodbyes, and go our separate ways.

Later that evening, after the kids are tucked in, I pull out my phone, ready to text her. But just as I start typing, anxiety kicks in. In a matter of moments, my mind races through a million thoughts:

• What should I even say?
• Will she remember our conversation?
• Oh no, if I text her too soon, she might think I’m too eager.
• But if I wait too long, she could see me as flaky.
• Should I follow the 3-Day Rule?
• Ugh, this is ridiculous—just send her a message!
• She seemed really cool; we could totally become besties.

Just imagine! Weekly girls’ nights and our kids having sleepovers. I can already picture a fun family barbecue! But wait, she looked super fit. What if she’s on some weird diet? But, wow, those yoga pants looked amazing on her. I seriously need to start eating healthier. Okay, time to text her. Maybe ask if she wants to meet at the park next weekend? Is it weird to suggest a public meetup? I can’t invite her over—my house is a mess! But maybe hers is too? She seemed pretty chill. Alright, I’m doing it! Tonight! But what can I say that’s fun, short, and won’t make her think, “Who is this weirdo?”

This is harder than I thought.

After two days of overthinking, I finally send a message to Chill Mom.

“Hi! We really enjoyed meeting you at the park the other day. We’ll be having a picnic lunch around noon on Saturday if you’d like to join us!”

Boom. Done. And now the waiting game begins. This feels just like dating!

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In summary, making friends with other moms can feel just like dating, filled with excitement and nerves as you hope for a connection. But just like in dating, a little courage can lead to wonderful friendships and shared experiences.