6 Insights Moms of Boys Wish Moms of Girls Knew

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As a mom of boys, I often feel like we’re navigating two worlds: one filled with the antics and adventures of little guys and another that includes the unique experiences of raising daughters. While many of our parenting concerns overlap, there are some distinct differences that shape our journeys. Here are six things I think moms of girls should understand about the world of raising sons.

1. We’re Not Making Excuses for Their Behavior.

   We’re not into the “boys will be boys” mentality. We’re all about setting clear expectations for how our sons should treat others, especially women, while allowing them to grow and develop in age-appropriate ways. Sometimes that means letting them be a bit rowdy with their buddies or giving them a space just for boys. We’re aware of the messages they’re absorbing, and while we might not always nail it, we’re actively working on it.

2. We’re Just as Concerned About Sexual Harassment and Consent.

   When stories about sexual violence make headlines, the narrative often turns to “all men” as potential threats. This can be frustrating because it unfairly labels our sons. We understand the fear for daughters, but it’s essential to recognize that we’re equally invested in teaching our boys about respect and consent. It’s a tough conversation, but we’re committed to ensuring our sons grow up to be respectful men.

3. We Think Unfair Dress Codes Are Ridiculous Too.

   The debate over dress codes often targets girls, suggesting they need to dress a certain way to prevent distractions for boys. We believe this notion undermines boys by implying they can’t control themselves. It’s crucial that schools apply dress codes fairly to everyone, allowing both genders to dress comfortably and appropriately for learning.

4. We Want Equal Opportunities for Everyone.

   We are all for initiatives like Girls on the Run and Girls Who Code because we want girls to have every chance to excel. But we believe it’s equally important that our sons have opportunities in these areas too. There’s enough space in the world for all of our kids to thrive, and diversity only enriches their experiences.

5. We’re Raising Our Sons to Be Allies.

   We are teaching our boys about gender equality and the importance of supporting women. We want them to grow up appreciating strong female role models and understanding that being a feminist isn’t something to shy away from. It’s about embracing equality for all, and we want our boys to be proud advocates for it.

6. We Sometimes Feel Left Out.

   As kids get older, friendships among parents can shift, often leaning towards gendered groups. I miss my “girl-mom” friends as our kids grow and interests change. While I can bond with my sons in many ways, some conversations just don’t fit with our dynamic. I hope moms of girls remember that we still value our friendships and want to stay connected.

At the end of the day, we’re all in this together, wanting what’s best for our kids. Whether we’re raising boys or girls, our goals align more than we often realize. If you want to dive deeper into the world of parenting and home insemination, check out this helpful resource. And for those interested in further information about the ins and outs of home insemination, see this excellent guide.