Why Dutch Kids Are the Happiest Little Ones Around (And What We Can Learn from Them)

So, ever wondered how to raise cheerful kids? Let’s dive into the delightful world of Dutch parenting!

1. Family Comes First

In the Netherlands, family time is a big deal. Dinner is typically enjoyed together around 6 p.m., which is a classic Dutch tradition. Many dads take advantage of a “papa dag” (daddy day), a legally allowed day off work to spend time with their kids. Back when I was in the States, I could count the number of dads at school pickup on one hand. Now, at my local Dutch school, nearly half of the parents are dads! With many fathers working part-time and Dutch women leading the charge in part-time employment across OECD nations, it’s easier for parents to balance work and family life. And guess what? Happy parents lead to happy kids.

2. Keeping It Chill

There’s a noticeable lack of helicopter parenting in Dutch households. Parents see their kids as individuals rather than reflections of themselves and don’t stress over grades or achievements. Instead, they acknowledge their children’s strengths without pressure. This laid-back attitude allows kids to explore and learn their own limits. After school and on weekends, you’ll find neighborhood kids playing outside, often without a single parent hovering. I’ve even noticed my Dutch neighbors cleverly rigging their doors with strings, allowing their kids to come and go freely. Plus, with no homework for kids under 10, there’s plenty of time to kick a ball around!

3. Freedom on Two Wheels

The Dutch are all about biking, and their bike paths are safe and well-maintained. By around age 10, kids often have the freedom to ride their bikes to school, visit friends, or head to weekend sports. This not only builds their confidence but also gives them a sense of independence. What kid wouldn’t love that?

4. Kids Have a Voice

When I first moved to the Netherlands and my children started at a local school, I thought I was solely responsible for playdate arrangements. However, I quickly learned that Dutch parents consult their kids first. Asking a 4-year-old what they want feels like a novel concept, but it’s become a valuable part of my parenting approach. Dutch parents genuinely listen to their children, fostering confidence in their teens. It’s not just teenage bravado; it’s a real belief in their worth and opinions.

5. Sweet Beginnings

After living in the Netherlands for six years, my kids might feel Dutch, but they still think they’re missing out when it comes to breakfast. While I serve up cereal and fruit, Dutch kids enjoy a breakfast staple of hagelslag—chocolate sprinkles on buttered white bread. With such a delicious start to the day, who wouldn’t be happy?

In summary, the Dutch approach to parenting emphasizes family time, relaxed expectations, independence, respect for children’s opinions, and a sweet start to the day. Adopting some of these practices could lead to happier kids everywhere! For more insights on parenting, check out our guide on home insemination privacy policies. Also, if you’re curious about home insemination, Cryobaby’s home intracevical insemination syringe kit combo is worth a look. And for additional information on infertility treatment, the ACOG offers excellent resources.