I can’t quite remember his name or what he looked like, but I have a vivid memory of a tall, gangly kid with long fingers. My mom would often take my sister and me to various meetings when we were kids. It was the ’80s, and as a newly single mom, she was exploring herself through different gatherings — whether it was a book club, a support group, or something more spiritual, I can’t recall.
While the adults chatted away in one room, us kids would be in another, watching TV and playing. I was around 9 or 10, at that in-between stage of childhood and adolescence. One day, this boy decided to tickle me in the corner, right between the old green couches. At first, I thought it was innocent fun, but when he tickled me between my legs, I realized it was something entirely different — something that didn’t feel right.
I remembered my mom’s teachings: our bodies belong to us, and no one should touch us in a way that makes us uncomfortable. The first incident felt weird but I brushed it off. By the second time, I recognized that this wasn’t an accident; it was purposeful. My mom had always emphasized safety — we were aware of the dangers around us, and she encouraged us to speak up if something felt off.
When I finally told her what happened, she was furious, not at me, but for me. She validated my feelings, made me feel proud for speaking up, and took action. I reflected on that experience as I became a mother myself. Now, I have two kids, and I’m committed to teaching them about their bodies, boundaries, and the importance of communication.
Here’s how I approach this important topic with my kids:
- Be Open About Sex
Instead of waiting for a “big talk,” I’ve incorporated discussions about sex into our everyday conversations. From as young as 3, we’ve talked about babies and how they are made. My goal is to demystify sex and present it as a natural part of life between loving partners. It’s crucial for them to understand what they might see in media versus reality. - Explain Body Functions
Just like my mom did, I use proper terminology for body parts. My kids need to know how their bodies work, including which parts are private and how those parts can feel. Knowing this helps them recognize when something inappropriate is happening. - Define Privacy
I make it clear which body parts are private and who is allowed to touch them. We discuss appropriate situations, like when a doctor might need to examine them, but also emphasize that anything outside those boundaries is not acceptable. - Empower Their Boundaries
I teach my kids that they have control over their bodies. If they don’t want to hug someone or play rough, they should feel free to say so. It’s also important for them to respect others’ boundaries. - Keep the Dialogue Open
I prioritize regular conversations with my kids. I know my older son tends to open up when I tuck him in at night, so I make that our special time to connect. Encouraging them to express all their feelings — whether it’s sadness, anger, or confusion — is vital. If they ever feel something is wrong, I want them to know they can come to me without fear.
If your children confide in you about anything suspicious, listen to them and take it seriously. Investigate further, and if you suspect something serious like abuse, don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals. Always reassure your kids that they won’t have to face anything scary alone again.
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In essence, preparing our children for potential dangers is crucial. Open communication about their bodies, boundaries, and feelings can empower them to navigate their childhood safely.
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