Single Mama Manifesto: A Dating Guide for the Brave

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Hey there, New Guy!

So, we recently hit it off, right? You flashed that charming smile, and I couldn’t help but smile back. We had a fun chat, and somewhere between my quick-witted comebacks and your amusing tale about a lost cab driver, I dropped the bomb: I’m a mom of two. And guess what? You didn’t run for the hills. Kudos to you! We even agreed to go on a first date.

Now, you might think dating a single mom isn’t a big deal, or maybe you’re on the lookout for someone a bit more traditional and “settled.” Whatever your vibe is, I’d like to share some insights to help you navigate this journey. Here’s the scoop:

1. The Kids Come First.
   Always. If my plans shift unexpectedly, please don’t take it personally. If I opt for a low-key night with my little ones watching yet another Tinkerbell movie instead of that fancy gala, it’s because I’m prioritizing what feels right. I’m cautious about introducing suitors into their lives unless I feel confident about it. So, if I don’t introduce you right away, it’s not just me—it’s a mutual decision.
2. Schedules Matter.
   When I ask about your week, I’m not playing detective. Between my job, my kids, and managing a household solo, my free nights are often booked. If you want to hang out, let’s get it on the calendar sooner rather than later.
3. Value My Time.
   If we’ve made plans, show up. I’m putting in the effort to arrange a babysitter and make this date happen. I’ve had enough of dating unavailable guys, so if that’s you, just say so.
4. Talk About My Kids.
   Yes, they’re a big part of my life. I’d love to share the funny things they say and the chaos they bring. If you can’t appreciate my mom life, we might not be a match.
5. I’m More Than Just a Mom.
   I have a ton of interests outside of parenting. Let’s dive into your world and share ours. Help me step out of “mom mode” and remind me of the vibrant woman I am. And please, call me by my first name. I miss hearing it.
6. Be Respectful, But Have Fun.
   I’m not looking for a PG-rated date. Treat me like the fun-loving adult I am, not just a mom. I can handle sarcasm but also want to be seen as a lady.
7. Let’s Avoid Badmouthing My Ex.
   Let’s keep the focus on us. My ex and I are navigating co-parenting, and I’d appreciate your support, but let’s keep the commentary to a minimum.
8. Don’t Assume I’m Desperate.
   Yes, this is hard work, but I’m not seeking pity or rescue. I want a partner, not a babysitter or a fixer-upper.
9. Be Understanding.
   I’m used to doing everything myself. I might be slow to accept help, but I’m open to it if you’re patient.
10. Patience is Key.
    This is a unique situation. My kids might react unpredictably, and I might need time to adjust. Let’s agree to take things slow and steady.

Thanks for sticking with me, New Guy! Ready to grab that coffee? Just let me know.

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Summary

Dating a single mom comes with its own set of unique challenges and rewards. Understanding her priorities, respecting her time, and appreciating her life outside of motherhood are essential. Building a relationship with a single mom requires patience and a willingness to adapt to her world.