An Open Letter to My Friends with Kids

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Dear Friends with Little Ones,

I know sometimes you might feel a twinge of envy towards me. I don’t have to lug around a lawn chair or my favorite wine to early morning soccer matches, and I can enjoy lazy weekend mornings. But let me tell you, I also have my moments of jealousy—like when you return from a movie and the kids rush into your arms, their faces lighting up just because you’re home. You always have exciting outings to the zoo or the latest animated flick.

With the changes in our lives as you’ve embraced parenthood and I’ve chosen a different path, our friendship has evolved. Some connections stay strong, some drift apart for a while, and others fade into the background of old photo albums. But if we’re still tight as we approach midlife, that means we’ve got something special. Here’s what I’d love for you to remember about being a good friend (with a capital F) to someone like me:

1. Own Your Flaws: Please don’t apologize because your living room looks like a toy factory exploded or you’re sporting a muffin top. Seriously, have you seen my place? I don’t have kids, so what’s my excuse? I’m more interested in hanging out with you and your family. Just let it go, okay?
2. Include Me in the Fun: Just because I don’t have a little one to take on adventures doesn’t mean I don’t want to join you. I might be a bit older and grumpier, but seeing your kids wave at me from a spinning ride is pure joy! I’d love to join you for movie nights or even run through the sprinklers in the summer. Plus, I’m always down to treat everyone to ice cream!
3. Adult Time is Key: I know juggling schedules and childcare can be tricky, but let’s try to set aside some time for just the two of us. So what if wild happy hours are behind us? Let’s enjoy a casual beer while Hudson is at karate or even do grocery shopping together if that’s your only free time. If we need to plan a month ahead, let’s do it and protect that time.
4. Be Direct About Visits: When you say, “Come visit anytime!” or “Let’s catch up this fall!” please give me specific dates. Suggest a few weekends when my partner and I can come to see you. It’s usually easier for us to travel, and while I love being on the go, I won’t just invite myself over. It can be awkward asking for dates, so don’t leave me hanging.
5. Respect My Thoughts: Please don’t dismiss my opinions just because I’m not a parent. I was a kid once, and I have plenty of insight from my experiences. Like a priest counseling about marriage, I may have something meaningful to share occasionally. My perspective could be valuable!
6. Share Your Parenting Stories: While I might not know the ins and outs of feeding schedules, I want to hear about your joys, struggles, and everything you’re learning. Parenting is tough, so talk to me about it; I’m all ears and don’t have to rush home for bedtime!
7. Let’s Talk About Other Things Too: Your little one may be the star of your life now, but there’s a whole world outside those baby gates. I want to hear about what you love—whether it’s the latest binge-worthy show or books on your reading list. Your dreams and goals matter to me, and I’m here to cheer you on. I don’t want you to lose sight of who you are.
8. No Pressure on Motherhood: Please don’t say I’d make a great mom someday. I appreciate your faith in me, and I know I would. Your family holds a special place in my heart, and I’m so thankful for you all. Even without kids of my own, I’ll always cherish my time with your little ones.

With love,
Your Friend Without Kids

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In summary, maintaining friendships through life’s changes is crucial. Embrace your journey as a parent, but also make space for your friendships. Let’s keep the laughter, love, and support flowing, regardless of the paths we’ve chosen.