You spot her at the park, or maybe it’s during a yoga class for moms, or at a La Leche League meeting. As a sanctimommy starts her diatribe about how formula is akin to poison or cloth diapers will lead to the apocalypse, your eyes lock with hers. In perfect unison, you both roll your eyes.
In the chaotic world of motherhood, your MBFF (mom best friend forever) is the one who always has your back, even if it means handing you a diaper wipe when you need it most. Here are 11 signs you’ve found that special friend…
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She’s Seen Your Real Life
You don’t bother tidying up before she visits—in fact, if you manage to wear anything other than pajamas, it’s a win. She knows that if she wants to sit on your couch, she might have to move a mountain of laundry. Love is sitting on top of that laundry together. And just like she’s seen your home at its messiest, she’s seen you at your most frazzled. She’s well aware that sleep deprivation can turn you into a version of Mommy Dearest. When you threaten to toss Prince Snuggles’ toys if he makes one more mess, she’s there with a glass of wine and a soothing hug. -
She’s Adopted Your Nicknames
You’ve heard her casually ask about how Prince Snuggles is doing with potty training. When she called him that, it felt totally normal. -
You Can Parent Each Other’s Kids
While you might feel ready to explode if your mother-in-law tries to discipline your kids, when your MBFF gives an order, they listen. You’ve both stepped in to correct each other’s little ones—like telling Prince Snuggles to stop tugging at his pants in the middle of the store. -
She Always Boosts Your Spirits
When someone at the playground gives you a hard time about your kid’s behavior, you can call your MBFF to vent. She’ll remind you that the critic is just being a total troll, and you’re doing just fine. -
She Defends You
If your MBFF had been there, that troll wouldn’t have dared to upset you. Whether she glares or takes a stand, she ensures you never have to face negativity alone. -
She’s Your Sounding Board
You love your partner, but their drawer-closing habits can drive you nuts. Your MBFF knows about your family dynamics, and sometimes, you just need someone who will listen without judgment—especially when you’re convinced Prince Snuggles is a future sociopath. -
You Cover for Each Other
Forgot to bring cookies for the school meeting? No problem—she’ll pick some up on her way. If she’s out of baby wipes, you’ve got her covered. She even knows how you take your coffee without asking. -
Your Cycles Sync Up
Somehow, you always know when her Aunt Flo is visiting because you’re both sharing the same cramps on your couch. You’ve had some pretty deep discussions about period products, and let’s just say you know a lot about each other’s bodily functions. -
You’ve Let Go of Germ Fears
If her kids are sick, you don’t hesitate to help out because you know your kids will catch whatever bugs are going around anyway. You just dive in, germs be damned. -
You’ve Cleaned Each Other’s Messes
No judgment here! You’ve seen the chaos in her bathroom, and she’s seen the disaster that is your playroom. You’ve done her dishes; she’s scrubbed your floors. It takes a special bond to tackle that kind of mess. -
You’ve Discussed Living Arrangements
You know life would be a breeze if you could just share a home, split the chores, and manage the kids together. The idea of a compound isn’t so far-fetched when you think about it with your MBFF.
In summary, finding your MBFF is all about connection, support, and shared experiences through the wild ride of motherhood. Whether it’s parenting tips, emotional support, or simply sharing the chaos, this relationship is invaluable. If you’re curious about more insights into the journey of motherhood and home insemination, check out IVF Babble for excellent resources, and for more on your fertility journey, this link is a great place to start.