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Why Our Parents Set the Bar So High
When it comes to parenting, whether you’re aiming to meet your parents’ expectations or striving to do even better, they inevitably become the benchmark for how well you’re doing.
Take me, for example. My parents were always those “got-it-together” types. By the time my siblings and I faced any rules or plans, they were already set in stone. They somehow managed to raise three creative kids, and while we admire punctuality and meticulous planning, we often find ourselves embracing a more relaxed approach to life. Let’s just say our apples rolled a bit further from that tree.
Interestingly, my siblings and I couldn’t be more different, despite growing up in the same house under the same roof. It’s a fascinating aspect of sibling dynamics—three unique individuals shaped by the same environment. We’re all in creative fields—a physician specializing in fertility, an interior designer, and a writer—but our paths couldn’t be more distinct.
Now, even as adults well into our 40s and 50s, we still find ourselves striving to meet our parents’ approval. We’re forever mindful of what Mom and Dad might think about our choices, whether it’s how we dress or how we raise our own children. We’ve passed down a solid moral framework to our kids, balanced with the joys of life like movie nights and the occasional cheeseburger.
The other night, as I sat in my daughter’s room with her, I couldn’t help but reflect on the pressure of parenting. “What will I do to mess you up in the next 17 years?” was my thought as I held her tiny hands. Fast forward to now, and she’s almost 14, probably drafting a list of my transgressions for future therapy sessions.
Our kids love us fiercely, and while I sometimes wonder if it’s a touch of Stockholm Syndrome, I believe it’s genuine love. Still, that nagging mom-guilt lingers. Am I making their lives harder as they navigate adulthood? Perhaps I should stop sharing so many of our family stories, but hey, I might just be giving them some juicy material for those therapy sessions down the road.
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In summary, parenting is a wild ride filled with expectations, guilt, and love. Our upbringing shapes us, but our unique paths make the journey all the more fascinating.