I want to share something with you, and I’ll do my best to approach it gently: I’m pregnant. Again.
I know this isn’t the easiest news for you to hear, and while I believe you’re happy for me, I also recognize the complexity of your feelings at this moment. Many people may not grasp the depth of your struggle, but I want you to know that I do, or at least I understand it in my own way. I still remember how difficult it was for me during my own battles with infertility. Those pregnancy announcements could hit like a ton of bricks—joy for others mixed with a heavy dose of bitterness and self-doubt. It’s a twisted emotional experience, and it’s completely valid.
I want to apologize if my news adds to your pain. I never want to cause you any hurt. I realize my joy can serve as a reminder of your own challenges, and I’m truly sorry for that. I promise to be sensitive throughout my pregnancy. I won’t bombard you with updates that might feel like salt in an open wound, and if you need to mute me on social media, I completely understand.
I won’t pressure you to join me in shopping for baby gear or offer clichéd phrases like, “It’ll be your turn someday.” Only thoughtless people say things like that. Instead, I’ll simply hold you close and say, “I love you.” If you need to retreat with a king-sized candy bar and a bottle of something strong, I get it. This is your personal struggle, not a reflection of me.
What you might not fully realize is how incredibly strong you are. Your courage in facing each cycle with resilience is admirable. You grieve with dignity, and you keep going when many would throw in the towel. I’m honored to call you my friend.
Just because I’ve found some success doesn’t mean I’ll stop advocating for your triumph. You may feel alone, but I’m right here with you, ready to fight alongside you. I’ll cry with you, cheer for you, and pray with you.
Always and forever (with a stash of ovulation predictor kits and more),
Your Friend
P.S. If you’re looking for more insight on home insemination, check out this post on intracervical insemination. Also, if you want to explore options, CryoBaby is a great resource for at-home kits. And for general information on fertility treatments, consider the excellent resource available at March of Dimes.
Summary: A heartfelt letter expressing support and understanding for a friend dealing with infertility while sharing personal news about pregnancy. The letter acknowledges the complexities of emotions involved and offers solidarity and empathy.