16 Things We Avoid to Keep Our Marriage Thriving

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Hey there! So, I recently hit the 16-year mark with my husband, whom I affectionately call Cheddar (yes, it’s a cheesy nickname, pun intended). I just wanted to share some insights into what keeps our marriage so happy and strong. After observing various relationships over the years, I’ve realized there are certain habits we intentionally steer clear of. Here’s a peek into the habits we don’t engage in that might be the secret sauce behind our long-lasting happiness.

1. We don’t point fingers.
   When things get tough—be it household chores, kids’ behavior, or finances—we tackle challenges as a team. Blaming each other only drives wedges, so we focus on solutions instead.
2. We don’t play mind games.
   Honesty is our policy. We communicate openly and avoid creating traps or shutting each other out. Life’s too short for that kind of drama; just say what you mean, kindly.
3. We don’t read between the lines.
   Because we communicate clearly, we never have to guess what the other person is thinking. If something’s on our minds, we ask instead of assuming.
4. We don’t hold onto grudges.
   Neither of us is one to dwell on irritations. If something bothers us, we talk it out and move on. Life’s too precious for lingering negativity.
5. We don’t air grievances to others.
   Complaining about your partner to friends can be harmful. While seeking advice is great, we keep our discussions respectful and private.
6. We don’t share everything.
   While we’re open, we don’t spill every thought we have. It’s about discernment. Some things are just better left unsaid to avoid unnecessary worrying.
7. We don’t do jealousy.
   Cheddar admires some celebs, and I have my favorites too. We trust each other enough not to let harmless admiration turn into jealousy.
8. We don’t expect to be each other’s everything.
   We fulfill many needs for one another, but not all. It’s healthy to have friends and alone time, too!
9. We don’t let life and kids overshadow our marriage.
   Especially when the kids were younger, we made it a point to prioritize our relationship, even if it’s just a quick check-in during a busy day.
10. We don’t undervalue physical intimacy.
    This one speaks for itself, and it’s important for us to maintain that connection.
11. We don’t ignore each other’s love languages.
    Understanding how we each give and receive love helps us connect. For instance, Cheddar thrives on physical touch, while I appreciate acts of service.
12. We don’t take each other for granted.
    We both recognize and appreciate each other’s efforts, whether it’s Cheddar’s chores or my role in caring for our kids.
13. We don’t dwell on flaws.
    We’re both aware of each other’s imperfections, but we choose to focus on the positive. Some quirks are even endearing!
14. We don’t engage in fights.
    We may disagree, but we’ve never had a full-blown fight. Disagreements don’t have to escalate into arguments, and we keep things respectful.
15. We don’t take ourselves too seriously.
    Laughter is our secret weapon! We keep things light with jokes, silly impressions, and lots of fun.
16. We don’t believe marriage should be a struggle.
    It can be challenging, but at its core, marriage should be about mutual support. If it ever feels strained, we’re open to seeking help, because facing challenges together is what it’s all about.

We’re not perfect, but we’re pretty great together. Here’s to another 16 years and beyond! If you want more insights into relationships, check out this other blog post for some more tips.

Summary:

In a nutshell, our happy marriage thrives on open communication, mutual respect, and a healthy dose of fun. We consciously avoid blame, grudges, and jealousy, focusing instead on teamwork and appreciation. It’s all about keeping the connection strong and not taking each other for granted. For more on relationships and parenting tips, visit CCRM IVF, a great resource for pregnancy and home insemination.