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I Prioritize Me Time, and I Won’t Apologize
You know, I once had a potential babysitter who told me, “Just don’t be one of those moms who leaves her kids at the sitter’s to hit the gym or enjoy some alone time.” She was an older lady with a clean, cozy home and a wealth of parenting stories. I was ready to hire her, but then she dropped that judgmental gem.
Like many new parents, I was bombarded with unsolicited advice the moment I announced my pregnancy. I often just smiled and nodded through it all, but one thing I refuse to feel guilty about is making time for myself.
I’m the mom who sends my toddler to daycare part-time, not just because it’s beneficial for him (which it is), but because I genuinely need that break. I’m the one who drops the kids off at Grandma’s just so I can attend a concert. Sometimes it’s a show I’m excited about, but other times, I simply want an excuse to get out of the house—alone.
I’m also that mom who sneaks away for coffee with friends, which often turns into a long lunch filled with laughter and way too much conversation. Sure, I could say it’s great bonding time for the kids with their dad, and it is, but honestly, sometimes I just want to savor some adult company over good food.
When I need to run errands, I’m not above leaving the kids with neighbors. And let’s be honest, those “errands” sometimes involve a much-needed massage and an eyebrow wax. I know the baby might be crying, and the toddler might be throwing a fit, but these shoulders won’t rub themselves!
And yes, I make reservations at that fancy restaurant for a night out with my husband, fully aware that the kids are probably munching on junk food and watching movies with the teenager next door. They might stay up late, and while I could pretend that bothers me, it really doesn’t.
So to that babysitter who warned me about being one of “those” moms—guess what? I already am. I leave my kids with sitters so I can go for a run after work or even just hang out with my colleagues for a bit longer. I consciously carve out time for myself because, honestly, if I don’t prioritize my needs, who will?
These moments away from my kids give me the space to breathe. They remind me that while I’m their mom, I’m also an individual who needs time to recharge. It’s important to recognize that my needs matter too, and I refuse to apologize for making myself a priority.
If you’re interested in more about parenting and self-care, you can check out this other blog post here. Also, for those looking into home insemination, Make A Mom is a great authority on the subject. And if you want to learn more about different family-building options, this resource can be really helpful.
To sum it up, taking time for yourself as a parent is not only okay, it’s essential! You deserve those moments of self-care without feeling guilty about it.