Being a working mom can often feel like a juggling act gone wrong, where you’re trying to “have it all” but end up feeling like you’re failing at everything. When I was a stay-at-home mom, life was challenging but manageable—kids were fed, we were semi-clean, and we usually made it to our destinations on time. But stepping back into the workforce introduced a whirlwind of chaos: school drop-offs, babysitters, meal prep, and deadlines.
I often felt like I was dropping the ball everywhere—dinner was a disaster, I was perpetually late, and work felt like a rush job that didn’t reflect my true abilities. Yet, despite the madness, this transition has been rewarding (especially since I enjoy my job!). I remind myself that it’s perfectly okay not to be a superstar working mom. Here are my top six reasons why:
1. You May Be Doing Better Than You Realize.
Have you heard of “imposter syndrome”? It’s that nagging feeling, especially common among women, that you’re faking your way through your job and that everyone will find out. Spoiler alert: you’re probably doing just fine. So keep pretending you’ve got it all together!
2. You’re Still Bringing in an Income.
Like my friend Mia says, “Don’t fire yourself!” There are plenty of people in the workforce who aren’t exactly shining stars, but they still get paid. You’re not one of them; you deserve your paycheck. Keep cashing it!
3. You’re Absorbing Skills Even When You Feel Lost.
When I returned to work after a four-year break, I was nervous and overwhelmed. The young HR guy who showed me my desk asked me to message Joe when I was ready to start, and I panicked about where to find the messaging program. But hey, it was just like Outlook! If I hadn’t been so flustered, I would have figured it out right away. The workplace evolves quickly, but if you’re in it, you can pick up the small changes along the way.
4. You’re Expanding Your Social Circle.
I loved my days as a stay-at-home mom, especially the friendships I formed. But interacting with people in your field is essential too. It not only benefits your career but also boosts your mental well-being.
5. Taking Action is Better Than Stagnation.
I hesitated to jump back into work because I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do, but sometimes you just have to dive in. No one figures it all out in a vacuum. You’ll learn and discover what you truly want while gaining experience.
6. Striving for Perfection Isn’t Necessary.
We all want happy, fulfilling lives, but that doesn’t mean they have to be perfect. Good is good enough, and I’d much rather enjoy a busy life, even if I’m running late all the time.
If you’re interested in more insights on this topic, check out this link for additional reading. Remember, it’s all about finding balance in the chaos.
Summary
Being a working mom can be overwhelming, but it’s okay to not be perfect. From dealing with imposter syndrome to making income and maintaining social connections, remember that doing your best is enough. Embrace the chaos and know that you’re doing better than you think!