They Don’t Want to Be Here

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Two kids arrived at our home on a Friday night, having just been taken from their mom for the first time. The 5-year-old was in tears as the caseworker brought him inside, and for the next hour and a half, his cries filled the room. “I don’t want to be here. I want to be with my momma,” he shouted, over and over again. His 7-year-old brother stood next to him, quietly sobbing but just as heartbroken.

To try to soothe them, the caseworker called their mom on speakerphone, but that did little to ease their pain. Tissues were scattered everywhere as they wiped their tears away. As it became clear that nothing could calm the boys, the caseworker eventually left, knowing that the little one wouldn’t settle until she was gone.

We decided to offer a movie and some ice cream. The half-empty bowls were a clear sign it was a weak attempt, but the crying finally subsided. We all ended up in the living room that first night, with the TV providing some comfort in a strange place.

During the night, each boy woke up and gently nudged my husband, disoriented in this unfamiliar home. The next day was filled with fun—jumping on the trampoline, playing basketball, and visiting parks. But then, a sudden realization hit the little guy. He remembered he wasn’t going home that night. That he didn’t know when he would be back. And once again, the heart-wrenching cries echoed through the house. “I don’t want to be here. I want to be with my momma.”

It’s clear that this little boy misses his mom and wants answers about when he’ll see her again. Unfortunately, we have no answers to give. Foster care is often filled with uncertainty, and our sympathetic gestures and bowls of ice cream just don’t seem to help, for them or for us.

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In summary, it’s tough to see children grappling with separation from their parents. While we try to comfort them with distractions, the reality of their situation looms large, reminding us that sometimes, love and understanding are the only answers we have.