I was running errands recently and tuned into a local classic rock station. Imagine my surprise when I heard Eddie Vedder from Pearl Jam belting out “Even Flow.” I mean, when did grunge from the ‘90s become classified as classic rock? I used to rock my flannel shirts and Doc Martens back in the day, but it seems that time has passed, and now I’m officially “classic” myself. Oddly enough, I don’t really feel older—unless I indulge in too much wine and end up with a recovery period that lasts three days. My younger self could have bounced back in just six hours!
As I approach 39, I can see that big 4-0 looming on the horizon. After a particularly emotional birthday spent crying on a barstool in New Orleans, I’m expecting my 40th to be a walk in the park. While I may not feel older, I definitely feel wiser. I wouldn’t want to relive the years filled with poor choices and insecurities, but there are five key lessons from my late teens and 20s that I carry with me proudly as I step into my 40s. Here are the highlights:
1. You Don’t Know Everything
In my late teens and early 20s, I was utterly convinced I had life all figured out—relationships, careers, you name it. I was quick to judge myself and others, thinking I had all the answers. If only someone had told me that no matter how much I thought I knew, there was always more to learn. As I pursue my PhD, I’ve realized that informal learning often holds more value than what we gain through formal education.
2. You Don’t Need to Have Everything Figured Out
We place so much pressure on young adults to map out their entire futures. Good grades, successful careers, marriage, kids—the list goes on. While goals are essential, they shouldn’t be set in stone. As I explored various career paths, I learned that it’s perfectly fine to change direction and stay open to new opportunities.
3. Embrace Your Body
I’ve wrestled with body image issues for most of my life, especially in my early 20s. I wish someone had encouraged me to love my body rather than push me toward the latest diet or workout trend. During that time, I started a habit of appreciating my body by finding three things I loved about it while looking in the mirror. Whether it’s the curve of my hips or the sparkle in my eyes, this practice has shifted my perspective.
4. Live Frugally
I learned the value of a dollar as a teen, working hard to afford my favorite clothes when my parents wouldn’t foot the bill. When I finally started earning a decent salary, I thought I could splurge. By 25, I had a closet full of clothes and shoes but very little else to show for it. It wasn’t until I became a parent that I truly grasped the difference between needs and wants.
5. Distinguish Between Risks and Foolishness
We’ve all heard the saying that no risk means no reward. But there are certainly risks that are just plain reckless—like wandering alone in unfamiliar cities, driving after a few drinks, or quitting a job without a backup plan. Thankfully, I managed to navigate my 20s with only a few scrapes, realizing that true risk-taking involves exploring new experiences without putting yourself in harm’s way.
After working with many young adults in their late teens and early 20s, I’m convinced that hearing these lessons from an adult wouldn’t have made a difference. Some lessons are best learned through experience, and they often come with a steep learning curve. I’m sure when my daughter turns 18, I’ll be stocked up on wine and anxiety meds until she navigates her own journey. But for now, I find solace in knowing that gaining wisdom is a genuine gift. If you’re interested in learning more about home insemination, check out this excellent resource on pregnancy.
Summary
As I reflect on my 20s, I realize that the experiences I had shaped who I am today. The lessons I learned about knowledge, planning, self-acceptance, financial responsibility, and risk management continue to guide me. Entering my 40s, I carry these lessons with pride, knowing that wisdom is a treasure we gain over time. For more insights on home insemination, consider visiting Cryobaby as they provide valuable information on the subject. Also, don’t forget to explore our advertiser disclosure for additional resources.