Dear Friends,

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I have something important to share. When your partner is working late, out of town, under the weather, or otherwise momentarily unavailable, please refrain from saying you are “Single Momming It.” I understand you mean well, but it simply doesn’t convey the reality. Here’s what “Single Momming” truly entails.

The Reality of Single Parenting

Every day, and for the vast majority of days, I am solely responsible for the early morning wake-ups, potty training, meal preparation, playtime, soccer practice, dentist visits, evening routines, and all the challenges that come with raising a child. Yes, I also get to experience all the wonderful moments, and I cherish that.

I’m the one funding the college account and paying every bill. The weight of my child’s future—education, friendships, activities, emotional health, and overall well-being—rests on my shoulders 24/7, 365 days a year, indefinitely. While I’m fortunate to have a supportive boyfriend who cares deeply for my kid, the day-to-day responsibilities are mine alone at this point, and they might always be.

The Juggling Act

I juggle a full-time job while taking care of my son throughout the day. After he goes to bed, I find myself working late into the night, hoping to create a better future because I am entirely accountable for providing for us. When I finally collapse into bed, I often do so with overwhelming worries. Am I doing enough for my child? Did I spend enough quality time with him? Is my love sufficient to make him feel cherished and secure? There’s no one there to reassure me that I did well today or to share a laugh about his silly antics.

Every outing, whether it’s a haircut or a dinner with friends, requires me to find a sitter, which can be a challenge. Please, I urge you not to equate your temporary extra responsibilities with my constant situation. I genuinely sympathize with the occasional strain you may feel when your partner is unavailable, and I recognize the effort you put in during those times. We all have our struggles, and I admire how you navigate yours.

A Call for Understanding

However, your extra burden is fleeting, while mine is enduring. This wasn’t the path I envisioned for myself; I had always dreamt of raising my child with two loving parents. Life, however, took a different turn, and I’ve accepted it. I’m not seeking pity; I understand everyone faces their own challenges.

I love my child fiercely and am grateful for him every day. I put in the work because he deserves it, even on the toughest days. All I ask is that you acknowledge the distinction between our experiences. We are all incredible moms with amazing kids, and we each have our moments of triumph and exhaustion. But let’s save the term “Single Momming It” for those of us who truly are.

This is Our Reality Right Now

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In Summary

While we all face challenges in parenting, it’s important to recognize the unique experiences of single parents. Let’s respect and honor that distinction.