What I Wish I Could Tell My 20-Something Self

As a twenty-something, my biggest worries revolved around psychology exams and what outfit to wear to the latest party. Even with these seemingly trivial concerns, I was a bundle of nerves, completely bewildered about what my future held. Why is it that an uncertain future feels so terrifying when you’re in your twenties? The lack of a clear path left me feeling anxious and overwhelmed.

Now, reflecting on those days filled with uncertainty, I can’t help but chuckle. I was so naive! Sure, I still deal with stress—just look at my growing collection of gray hairs! But these days, my stress is more manageable and less dramatic. The things that send shivers down my spine now include the latest TikTok trends, carbs, and of course, the occasional political debate.

A Shift in Perspective

At some point, many women experience a shift—a moment when we become more aware of ourselves and find a sense of contentment. Eventually, we reach a stage where we feel like we have a handle on life, even as we embrace the uncertainties that still lie ahead.

Now, as a mother of two, a bill payer, and a dinner preparer, I find myself feeling more at peace than ever. I’ve come to accept that perfection is an illusion and that my metabolism may have slowed down. I relish the comfort of a good night’s sleep over wild nights out, which come with too many dark circles and headaches.

Embracing the Little Things

These days, I appreciate the little things like fiber and SPF 50. I love the flexibility of my jeans and the thrill of discovering a hidden flea market. I know the ins and outs of the housing market and could easily recommend a great realtor. Plus, I’m all about those BOGO coupons!

I’m genuinely happy with where I am in life, even if it might seem boring to others. I no longer seek approval from some guy in a graphic tee or a group of trendy hipsters. I have a fulfilling career, a wonderfully chaotic family, and I can whip up a margarita that would impress anyone.

Advice to My Younger Self

If I could travel back in time to that tiny studio apartment, I’d tell that girl fretting over her wardrobe to just grab something and take a deep breath. Seriously, just breathe. No one will remember what top you wore to which bar, nor will they care how many times you switched your major or your guilty pleasure for cheesy 90s music.

I wish I could inform her that the stress of those exams is nothing compared to the challenge of getting kids to eat their veggies. I’d tell her to stop trying to please everyone else and to ignore irrelevant opinions. It’s perfectly okay to assert herself and to do so without apology. Life won’t go according to her plans, but it will turn out to be so much better than she could ever imagine.

Resources for the Journey

For anyone navigating this journey, I recommend checking out this excellent resource on infertility and pregnancy from the CDC, which offers valuable insights. If you’re interested in learning more about home insemination options, visit this informative guide on at-home insemination kits.

Conclusion

In summary, life is a winding road filled with unexpected joys and challenges, and it’s important to embrace each moment, even if it feels mundane.