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5 Reasons I’m Loving My Late 30s
You know, after three and a half decades of navigating life’s ups and downs, I’ve come to realize that all those experiences really do add up to something significant. Although I hadn’t faced a financial crisis or major family upheaval like the one we were dealing with at the time, I’ve been through my own share of challenges. I grew up in a divorced home, endured custody battles, battled intense panic attacks, experienced two pregnancies, a miscarriage, and two natural childbirths. I faced postpartum anxiety and countless sleepless nights with babies and toddlers. And let’s not forget, I’ve spent a good decade in therapy.
So, when the stress levels began to rise again at 35, I knew I had the tools to handle it. I turned to meditation, yoga, walking, and running. I learned that fighting my feelings only made things worse, so I made it a point to feel them, accept them, and then release them.
As I approach my 38th year—much closer to 40 than I was to 35—I see this approach becoming a daily mantra. Life won’t ever be devoid of stress; misfortune and heartache are part of the package. The worst thing I could do is suppress my emotions. The best thing? Acknowledge them, embrace them, and then let them go.
This might sound like a Zen philosophy, but honestly, it’s just a realization that as I grow older, I’m far less concerned about trivial matters that used to bother me. Here are five things that make my late 30s pretty awesome, and what I hope will continue into my 40s:
1. Clarity on Desires
From my favorite style of underwear (boy shorts, medium, thanks!) to how I prefer to spend my weekends (cozying up with a good book or a movie with my partner), I finally know what brings me joy. I no longer feel the need to mold myself to someone else’s expectations. I’m well aware of my strengths and weaknesses, and honestly, a scoop of vegan mint chocolate chip ice cream is all it takes to make me smile.
2. Confidence in Boundaries
I’ve learned what I don’t want, and I’m unapologetic about it. Horror movies? No, thank you! If you want to reach me, please text or email (I’m not a fan of phone calls). And when it comes to dinner time, I like to savor my meal in peace—kids can eat and then I’ll retreat to the living room to enjoy my meal undisturbed.
3. Coping Skills for Tough Times
I’ve recently started being open about my anxiety, and it’s liberating. Instead of wishing it away, I’ve accepted it as part of who I am. I’ve developed an array of coping mechanisms that help me, including journaling, which I recommend for anyone dealing with anxiety—even if you don’t intend to become a writer. I keep my therapist’s contact info handy and have a prescription for Xanax ready just in case.
4. Body Positivity
Over the past few years, I’ve found a sense of acceptance regarding my body. Sure, I wouldn’t mind being a bit firmer or losing that extra five pounds from last winter, but I’ve come to terms with my genetic makeup. I know how to maintain a healthy lifestyle, and I’ve long since abandoned those crash diets and extreme workout plans. It’s all about acceptance and well-being now.
5. Redefining Perfection
I once held onto a vision of how my life should look by this age. Now that I’m here, I realize that life rarely mirrors those picture-perfect dreams. I have a loving partner and two wonderful kids, but we don’t own a house or take fancy vacations, and we’re still driving the compact car we got when we married 14 years ago. I’ve learned that perfection is overrated, and the myth of “having it all” is just that—a myth. The real secret to happiness lies in counting blessings and making the most of what you have.
Each year seems to outshine the last, and while I might dread the thought of gray hairs and creaky joints, I’m excited about turning the big 4-0. For me, aging is all about resilience, letting go, and embracing life. Bring it on!
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In summary, my late 30s have been a time of self-discovery, acceptance, and releasing the need for perfection. I look forward to what my 40s will bring!