For over twelve years, she was my unwavering companion. I moved around (she experienced life in San Francisco, Seattle, Connecticut, back to Seattle, and then Los Angeles). I navigated breakups (she witnessed one guy leave and another move in). I got married (she proudly posed in our wedding photos). I had a child (and she was baffled by this tiny, hairless creature). I also faced loss (she couldn’t join me on that trip to New York to say goodbye to my grandmother). While my journey into adulthood took its time to find its footing, she was always there, a constant presence: big, white, a bit neurotic, full of energy, affectionate, and with those kind, expressive eyes.
But as time passed, she changed. Her eyes grew cloudy, and she filled out, taking on a grandmotherly shape in her later years. Running and jumping became a distant memory. Her last year was tough; her dignity faded. Her legs weakened, and so did her ability to control her bowels. She panted day and night, despite our efforts to ease her pain with medication.
Making the Heart-Wrenching Choice
How does one make that heart-wrenching choice? When is the right moment? I’ll never forget her final day. She shuffled around, a mix of soreness and determination, trembling through the night. At 2 a.m., she had another accident, and finally, she drifted into sleep, exhaustion taking over. In those last moments, as the vet techs prepared her, fear hung heavily in the air. We tried to soothe her; we wanted to wrap her in comfort, but it was impossible. When the vet administered the sedative, I held my breath. By the time the tube was empty, she lay still. I chose to let my young daughter stay with us, but my tears unsettled her, and she began to cry too, saying, “I don’t want a gone-away dog.”
Adulthood brings us to face difficult decisions: choosing to say goodbye to a beloved pet among them. It’s a painful lesson in maturity, a rite of passage we all must navigate one day—whether it’s with a pet, a parent, or a partner. Now, a summer has passed, and our other dog is starting to show gray around her muzzle.
I still find bits of my beloved dog’s fur hiding in closets and boxes. Her collar rests in a drawer. Making that choice was one of the most grown-up things I’ve ever done, and even now, I find myself hoping there’s a doggy heaven out there, just like a kid would.
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In summary, saying goodbye to a cherished pet is a profound experience filled with love and difficult choices. It teaches us about loss and maturity, reminding us of the bonds we share and the memories we hold dear.