For as long as I can remember, self-worth has been a struggle for me. As a child, I was painfully shy and embarrassed by my appearance. There were many summers when I opted for long jeans and sweaters instead of comfortable clothes. I spent a lot of time putting myself down and feeling insecure about who I was.
As I grew older, I discovered a way to cope with my feelings of inadequacy. I remember a moment at camp when a group of boys called me ugly. Instead of letting it hurt me, I responded with a cheerful, “I know, right?” They laughed, and in that moment, I realized that making fun of myself could break the ice and make others laugh. While it garnered attention, it also led me down a path of self-deprecation that hurt me more than it helped.
Now, I have a 13-year-old daughter, Emma, who is grappling with the same self-esteem issues I faced. Despite being bright, talented, and a budding advocate for women’s rights, she often puts herself down. It’s heartbreaking to see, and I can’t help but feel responsible.
Unbeknownst to me, Emma has been observing how I treat myself. Do I show myself kindness and understanding, or do I criticize myself when I feel less than perfect? Unfortunately, it’s the latter. This unintentional message I’ve sent is damaging—she’s picking up on my negative self-talk and internalizing it.
When Emma confronted me about this, it was a wake-up call. I hadn’t realized the impact of my words and actions on her. I’m grateful she spoke up, and now I’m committed to being a better role model.
Key Lessons I Want to Share with Her
- Be Confident: True power comes from knowing who you are and what you can achieve.
- Be Yourself: Your individuality is your strongest asset.
- Support Other Women: Lift each other up; together we can achieve so much more.
- Limit Media Exposure: Turn off the TV and social media. Engage with movements that promote positive body image.
- Critique Media: Understand that Photoshop often creates unrealistic standards. Look at media critically.
- Pursue Education: Knowledge is empowering.
- Avoid Gossip: Speaking negatively about others doesn’t elevate you; it diminishes you.
- Live Your Vision: Following your path inspires others to do the same.
- Speak Up: Silence can be damaging; your voice matters.
- Seek Role Models: Surround yourself with inspiring figures who broaden your perspective.
Most importantly, I want her to always remember that I love her and believe in her potential. Ironically, these lessons apply to me too. Perhaps we can support each other on this journey toward better self-esteem.
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In summary, it’s crucial for both mothers and daughters to embrace self-love and promote confidence. We can learn from each other, and together, we can create a more positive narrative about self-worth.