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Revisiting Failure with Inspiration from Leslie Thompson
I recently picked up Leslie Thompson’s book, “Absolutely Yes,” and it sparked some deep thoughts about what personal failure really means. Let me tell you, “Absolutely Yes” is anything but a flop—it’s clever, uplifting, and downright funny, reinforcing my admiration for Leslie over the years. One particular insight about failure struck a chord with me.
As a woman in my 30s, I’ve reached a point in life where I’ve made some significant choices, many of which have been scrutinized by both myself and the outside world. I’ve spent countless moments pondering the concept of failure. There have been times I’ve questioned whether I have failed or will eventually fail, and all I can do is hold my breath, cross my fingers and toes, and hope I’m on the right path. Unfortunately, time travel isn’t an option—adult decisions come with adult consequences, and that’s a hefty weight to carry.
In “Absolutely Yes,” Leslie shares that she doesn’t view her marriage’s end as a failure. Instead, she focuses on the positives, such as becoming a mother during her ten-year relationship. Though the divorce was undoubtedly tough, she emphasizes the respect they maintained for each other and their commitment to co-parenting. Rather than seeing herself as a marital failure, she cherishes her kids and the memories they created, which I find incredibly refreshing.
I can relate to Leslie’s experiences navigating life’s unexpected challenges. I know what it’s like to have plans go awry. My personal struggle stems from prioritizing motherhood over my career ambitions when my daughter was born six years ago. During my time at home, I sometimes felt society labeled me a failure for not working outside the home. I’ve seen the disappointment in people’s eyes when they learned I was opting for family life instead of pursuing a career—they expected me to juggle it all or face judgment.
People even asked why I wasn’t “utilizing” my degree or claimed they would get too bored doing what I do. I often felt these questions were patronizing and intrusive, yet they made me question my choices. There were times I yearned to break down and cry over the doors that seemed firmly shut to me.
Reflecting on Leslie’s perspective on failure, I’ve come to reassess my own choices regarding motherhood versus career. While my professional journey isn’t what I envisioned at this stage, I take pride in being a fantastic mom. The years spent nurturing my kids have been invaluable, filled with ups and downs, but ultimately beautiful. Life may be unfolding differently than I expected, but I believe there’s still time for my ambitions.
Leslie’s compassionate view on failure has inspired me to be kinder to myself. Not everyone will understand my decisions, and frankly, I’m done worrying about it. I know I’ve made my choices thoughtfully, so I’m trusting that this pause in my career will reveal its purpose in time. I choose to believe that every setback and disappointment is paving the way for something greater in my future. One day, I’ll look back and see that what I once deemed failures were essential chapters in my life story.
Just like Leslie did.
“Standing up for ourselves like we would for a friend is challenging but rewarding.” – Leslie Thompson, Absolutely Yes.
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In summary, redefining failure through the lens of personal growth and self-acceptance can be liberating. Embracing our choices, whether they align with societal expectations or not, allows us to appreciate the unique paths we’ve taken.