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Why Every Woman Should Have a Gay Best Friend
We were both unconventional students in our early 30s, finally deciding to wrap up our degrees after a decade of living life to the fullest. I met Alex during my last year of college in one of my classes.
We hit it off immediately, chatting before lectures and sharing a smoke after class. I opened up about my young daughter and my choice to leave her father, while he shared stories of his career and travels. We even enjoyed a drink or two between classes. Looking back, it’s almost comical that it took me two months to realize Alex was gay. I felt a little like I was trapped in an ironic Alanis Morissette song – what luck to bond with such an amazing guy only to find out he wasn’t interested in women!
I graduated a semester before Alex, but we made it a point to stay in touch. Pretty soon, we were inseparable. He became my date for weddings, my go-to for dinner, and a key part of my support system. We studied together for the LSAT and GRE, and my family, including my daughter, embraced him like one of their own. One day, a stranger asked, “Where’s your gay husband?” From that moment on, we affectionately referred to each other as “gay husband” and “straight wife.”
After a year, I moved 1,500 miles away to pursue a master’s program, but we kept our connection strong, talking regularly and making the most of our time together during my visits. Eventually, I returned to the Midwest to start a Ph.D. program about eight hours from home, but Alex remained an integral part of my life. He stays over at my place, I crash at his, and we bicker like an old married couple. When I ask, “Do I look fat in this?” he knows the correct answer is always “No.”
Over the years, Alex has been my rock through heartbreaks and bad dates. He’s been a wonderful male role model for my daughter and a cherished friend to my parents. His generosity knows no bounds; he once lent me money to buy a used bed for my daughter when her father wouldn’t help. A month later, he forgave my debt as a birthday gift. He treats me to dinners, thoughtful gifts, and even helps me navigate big life decisions, all while keeping me grounded when I’m being a bit difficult. He embodies everything I want in a partner—minus the romance.
I used to think of a gay best friend as simply another girlfriend who might give me better fashion advice or cut my hair. While I’ve had those kinds of friends, I’ve learned that a gay male friend like Alex occupies a unique space in my life. We share a bond that’s free from romantic tension, allowing me to accept his kindness and support in a way that feels comfortable and genuine. His intelligence, humor, empathy, and generosity are the qualities I hope to find in a partner someday, but for now, an exceptional gay best friend and a trusty vibrator may just be the perfect combination.
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In summary, having a gay best friend can enrich your life in ways you never imagined. Their unique perspective, unwavering support, and ability to share in your joys and struggles make them invaluable companions. So, embrace the irony of life and cherish those beautiful friendships!