20 Dos and Don’ts After Divorce

1. Do rediscover your sense of humor—especially about yourself, but maybe keep it private for now.
2. Don’t fall head over heels for mint chocolate chip ice cream. It might be comforting, but you might end up regretting it (though, let’s be real, enjoy it anyway).
3. Do explore the dating scene when you feel ready. There are some real treasures out there, even among the online chaos, but you have to be in the right mindset to notice them.
4. Don’t rush into getting a tattoo. Remember, it’s permanent, and your reasons might be fleeting.
5. Do take a breather and let your mind wander. That peace is golden, and sometimes that inner voice can really get on your nerves.
6. Don’t accept random guys’ offers of apple schnapps and tequila shots. No need for an explanation here.
7. Do embrace life! You can try anything you want now—who’s stopping you?
8. Don’t attempt surfing alone. Remember, you’re single, not a pro surfer like Layne Beachley.
9. Do belt out tunes with the radio, especially with Bruce—he totally gets your vibe. And don’t forget to jam to Nelly, because “Country Grammar” is a classic!
10. Don’t end up in bed with someone who doesn’t respect you or share your feelings. You’ve been there before with your ex, right?
11. Do pick up a new hobby or revisit an old one. It’s important to keep learning and growing—trust me, you’re more interesting than you think!
12. Don’t suppress your emotions, but remember they’re just temporary. They don’t have to define you.
13. Do take time to appreciate the beauty around you—art, music, nature, and stories. It’s inspiring to see what creativity can produce.
14. Don’t overlook the small things, like making a special dinner for your child or starting a new holiday tradition. They might thank you one day.
15. Do spend time with your friends. They help remind you of who you truly are and where you’ve come from—they don’t care about your divorce.
16. Don’t buy clothes that are too youthful or small for you. You don’t want to be that woman; embrace some comfortable lycra!
17. Do take a moment to peek at your sleeping child. That image is pure magic to carry with you at night.
18. Don’t get into crafting unless you’re ready to handle hot glue guns—seriously, life can be fulfilling without stepping foot in a craft store.
19. Do treat others as you wish to be treated, including yourself. It’s the Golden Rule for a reason!
20. And most importantly, don’t lose hope. You’ve got one life to live—make it yours.

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Summary

Navigating life after divorce can be a whirlwind of emotions and decisions. From embracing new experiences and friendships to taking care of your mental health, it’s important to find joy and laughter in the journey ahead. Keep moving forward, and remember to treat yourself well.