Why I Cherish My Childless Girlfriends

Since stepping into motherhood, I’ve embarked on a mission to connect with other new moms. I’ve hit up mom groups, attended baby music classes, and even joined a women’s group at a local church (where I’m not a member). Riding the wave of new motherhood, I feel a strong urge to be around women who understand the delightful chaos that comes with it. I want to share stories about engorged breasts and diaper dilemmas, and ask, “Is this normal?!” to those who truly get the exhaustion and overwhelming love that comes with being a new parent.

However, throughout my journey to find mom friends, I’ve noticed that I might have unintentionally distanced myself from my childless friends. Not because they don’t get it, but because I’m just trying to keep my head above water and figure things out. While I adore the new mom pals I’ve made, there are several vital reasons why my childless girlfriends are more important to me than ever.

1. They Remind Me of Who I Am

In the whirlwind of motherhood, I’ve become “Mommy” – the milk machine who can barely stay awake past 8:30 PM. My girlfriends, however, remind me that I’m still Sarah, the wine-loving, joke-telling, fun friend who’s always been a night owl (or at least tried to be).

2. No Unsolicited Advice

When I vent to my mom friends, they often offer advice on sleep strategies or baby gear. Sometimes, all I want is someone to listen, pour me a glass of wine, and say, “That sounds rough.”

3. They Love to Hold My Baby

My mom friends are wonderful, but hanging out with them doesn’t always provide a break from motherhood. When my childless friends come over, they’re happy to hold my little one while I kick back with a drink (notice the trend?). Seeing them enjoy my baby brings a tear to my eye… and maybe a bit of that wine too.

4. They Keep Me Grounded

Recently, a fellow mom and I were fretting over our 5-month-olds not signing yet. When I shared this with my childless friends, they snapped me back to reality with a playful attitude: “Seriously? That’s not even on the radar!”

5. Fashion Police

I have no judgment for other moms’ style choices; we’ve all been there in sweatpants and messy hair. However, my childless girlfriends remind me to dress up every now and then, and they’ve even sworn to intervene if I ever consider wearing mom jeans or cargo capris.

6. No Parenting Judgments

They don’t care if I’m into attachment parenting, co-sleeping, or any of the other parenting styles out there. It’s refreshing to be with friends who don’t scrutinize my choices.

Spending time with my childless friends allows me to unwind, enjoy a drink, and remember that I’m more than just “Mommy.” It’s essential to maintain those connections that remind me of my pre-baby self, and it helps to balance the ups and downs of motherhood.

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Summary: Embracing my childless friendships while navigating motherhood is crucial. These friendships remind me of my identity, provide an escape from parenting advice, and help me maintain a sense of style and self without judgment. They keep me grounded and allow me to enjoy a few moments of relaxation and fun in this busy new chapter of life.