The Secret to a Happy Marriage? Embrace New Adventures Together (and Ditch the Duds)

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I once dated a guy who had a perpetual cloud of negativity hanging over him. No matter what exciting activity I suggested, he had a laundry list of reasons why it would be a flop. Want to go camping? He’d grumble about the expense of gear we’d never use again. How about strumming guitars together? He insisted he was hopeless, claiming he was “too old” to improve (we were just 25!). Dancing? Well, he used to be a pro, but dancing with a novice? No thanks. Every idea I pitched was met with skepticism, and when I tried things without him, he’d downplay my experiences. His message was loud and clear: “I couldn’t care less about your adventures.” (And yes, I know—his looks were hard to resist.)

After we parted ways, I quickly realized how draining that relationship was. I then met someone who sparked joy and enthusiasm in everything I tried. It turns out, couples thrive on shared experiences, whether it’s a regular date night or diving into a new hobby like rock climbing or painting.

Recent research from Dr. Benjamin Le at the Science of Relationships shows that how partners respond to each other’s attempts to grow and explore is key to relationship happiness. In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers had couples separated, with one half engaging in a fun task (like a photography lesson) while the other half received messages from their partners. These weren’t real messages but rather crafted ones—some were encouraging, while others were indifferent. Those who received supportive messages during their engaging activities reported higher relationship satisfaction, especially if they had been together for over a year. Interestingly, this effect didn’t apply to newer couples, likely because the thrill of a new relationship provides plenty of excitement on its own.

Sometimes, I wonder how life would have turned out had I married that pessimistic boyfriend. His lack of enthusiasm for new experiences was stifling, and it made me question the value of trying anything at all. Then I met my husband, who thinks every wild idea I have is brilliant—even when they flop! He embraces new adventures just as much as I do, which makes our relationship feel vibrant and alive.

So, what’s the takeaway? Engage in activities together and apart, and most importantly, don’t waste time on anyone who doesn’t care about your passions.

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In summary, a happy marriage thrives on shared adventures and mutual support. If your partner doesn’t cheer for your dreams, it might be time to reconsider.