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What New Dads Should Know to Support Their Partners
Hey there, soon-to-be dads! My younger sibling, Jason, and his partner, Emily, are gearing up to welcome their second little one into the world. As the wise older sister, I feel it’s my responsibility to share some essential tips that will help them navigate this exciting yet challenging time in their lives. Having raised a few kiddos myself (seven, to be exact), I’ve learned a thing or two about what to expect and how to lend a helping hand. So, Jason, and all the future fathers out there, here’s a straightforward guide to avoid any major blunders:
Beware of the Humming
If you come home from work and find Emily softly humming a tune on the porch, you might want to tread carefully. That humming signals she’s reached her limit and just needs a moment of peace. Don’t disturb her! Instead, slip into the house, take care of the crying baby, and tackle the mess in the living room. Just remember, those 15 minutes of chaos reflect her entire day. So, don’t be dismissive. Two kids may sound manageable, but it can feel like ten, so grab the mop and help out.
Show Extra Compassion
Make sure to shower Emily with love and affection. Offer hugs, hold her close, and stroke her hair. Let’s leave out comments about her unkempt hair or that she might need a shower. Instead, tell her she looks amazing and that motherhood suits her. Sometimes, a little white lie goes a long way in boosting morale.
Don’t Ask About Her Workout Plans
Let’s keep expectations realistic. Emily has just given birth, and she’s not going to jump into a fitness routine any time soon. If she dances around the house, take it as a cue that she’s in need of a break, not a sign that she’s ready to train for a marathon.
Make Dinner for Both of You
While you’re at it, whip up a meal for Emily too, because her diet probably consists of snacks that don’t even resemble a proper meal. Between diaper changes and late-night feedings, she’s too exhausted to think about meal prep. And clean up after yourself—just enough to show you care without making her feel inadequate. A few crumbs left on the counter can go a long way in making her feel needed.
Hold the Baby
When Emily asks you to hold the baby, do it! Don’t just set the little one down again. She needs a breather, and you holding the baby gives her a chance to eat or just relax for a moment.
Learn to Eat Like She Does
If you want to bond with Emily, try eating while holding a squirming baby. It might feel like you’re wrestling a slippery octopus, but it’s a great way to show her you’re in this together.
NEVER Wake a Sleeping Mom
This is crucial! If Emily finally gets a moment of sleep, don’t ruin it with silly questions. There are very few valid reasons to wake a sleeping mother, so if there’s a minor issue, handle it yourself. If you must wake her, make sure it’s for something serious like a fire or a flooding bathroom—not to ask where the remote is. Just let her sleep! You can always look up the answers online; Google is your friend.
There’s so much more I could share, but it’s best for you to figure some things out on your own—just like the rest of us did. Enjoy these early days with your growing family. They’ll fly by, and before you know it, the baby will be sleeping through the night, and Emily will feel more like herself again. Be helpful, make memories, and don’t forget the octopus order for dinner!
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Summary
New dads, prepare for an exciting journey with your partner as you welcome a new child! Show compassion, help with household chores, and respect your partner’s need for rest. Bonding moments can be created in the simplest of ways, and it’s important to cherish this unique time together as a family.