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Let’s Chat About Scheduling Intimacy, Friend!
Our intimate life was in a rut. It’s a tough truth to admit, but it’s the reality we faced. As our quality time dwindled, our relationship and family dynamics began to feel the strain.
Juggling my chronic illness and the demands of raising two energetic toddlers often left my husband and me feeling drained. Mornings were a challenge with my rheumatoid arthritis flaring up, and my early-rising kids made spontaneous moments of intimacy nearly impossible. Each day, I’d promise to save some energy for my husband later, but the chaos of little ones quickly derailed those plans. By the time my husband returned from work and the kids were finally in bed, I was usually too exhausted to do anything but zone out in front of the TV. We knew we needed to make a change.
Thus began our conversation about scheduling intimacy. Initially, the idea felt awkward and unromantic. My husband worried it would feel like another item on my already packed to-do list. But with our differing libidos and limited alone time, we decided to give it a shot.
As we pinpointed a night of the week for our scheduled intimacy, it dawned on us that we were missing much more than just physical closeness. We had neglected all forms of intimacy—kissing, cuddling, and even simple adult conversations. We were so focused on our children’s needs that our relationship had taken a backseat.
As a stay-at-home mom dealing with the daily grind, the list of tasks seemed endless: diaper changes, laundry, grocery runs, meal prep, and the perpetual battle to get my toddler to eat something nutritious. There were doctor’s appointments for both the kids and me, pharmacy visits, and insurance headaches. It’s no surprise that finding the mood for intimacy felt like an uphill battle.
After some reflection, we had a breakthrough. What if we dedicated one night each week to actively addressing each other’s needs? My husband wanted more physical connection, while I craved some downtime to recharge. We decided that on our chosen night, he would take charge of the kids and dinner, allowing me to unwind and reconnect with my own desires. We picked a night and agreed to try it for a month.
Fast forward several months, and this plan has worked wonders for us. Most weeks, my little bit of alone time is all it takes to reignite that spark. But it’s crucial to note that my husband isn’t doing this as a transaction; he genuinely wants to support me, and I make an effort to reserve energy for him in return.
Of course, it doesn’t always go as planned. Some nights, the kids are just too wild for me to truly relax. Other times, I may still feel overwhelmed or too tired. And that’s perfectly okay. The key lies in our commitment to meeting each other’s needs, which has actually inspired us to connect even on non-scheduled days.
Someone once said that a family is like a triangle, consisting of three points: the kids, the couple, and the individual. It’s easy to forget the needs of the couple and the individual when we’re busy caring for our children, which can lead to an unbalanced triangle. Prioritizing all three aspects of our lives has proven to be the best approach for our family. Believe it or not, scheduling intimacy has helped us achieve just that.
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In summary, scheduling intimacy has been a game-changer for our relationship. By actively making time for each other, we’ve been able to nurture our connection and keep the balance in our family triangle. Remember, it’s all about meeting each other’s needs, both scheduled and spontaneous.