Things I Wish I Knew at 16: A Heartfelt Reflection

It’s been over two decades since I was 16, but I can still recall that time vividly. If I could have a heart-to-heart with my 16-year-old self, I believe we could spare ourselves some heartache. Having journeyed through different life stages, I’ve gathered wisdom that I wish I’d known back in 1995. Here’s what I’d say:

Trust Your Instincts

First off, trust your instincts. You have a better understanding of yourself than others might give you credit for. People often say, “Oh, you’ll change your mind,” but the truth is, you know who you are, and that’s incredibly valuable. It took me years, traveling through various states and countries, to reconnect with that authentic self. So be confident in who you are, even if the adults around you seem a bit lost themselves.

Understand Your Parents’ Concerns

Also, remember that your parents genuinely want what’s best for you. That boyfriend you think they’re being overprotective about? They’re just concerned he might distract you from your dreams. When they don’t let you fly solo to Chicago for the weekend, it’s not because they don’t trust you; they’re simply worried about your safety. One day, you’ll become a parent too, and you’ll understand their worries all too well.

Value Your Family

Your family will always be there for you, even when you feel like pushing them away. I know things seem rocky at home now, and you might feel misunderstood. But in the future, you’ll realize how much they can help you grow as a parent yourself. You’ll see them in a new light when you entrust your little one to them, and their support will be invaluable.

Enduring Friendships

You will also find enduring friendships. Yes, your best friend is leaving for a study abroad program, and it feels devastating. But fear not, because you will meet incredible women throughout your life who will become your soul sisters. And that friend? There’s a good chance you’ll reconnect over a cup of tea 20 years from now!

Learn to Let Go

Learn to let go. Some people will come into your life, and it’s okay if they don’t stay forever. The ones who truly care about you will always be there, so don’t waste energy on those who don’t.

Never Give Up on Your Dreams

And above all, never give up on your dreams. Right now, you’re passionate about writing, painting, and singing. You might face setbacks, like that time your creative writing teacher didn’t respond as you’d hoped, but don’t let that crush you. Keep pursuing what ignites your spirit. One day, you’ll be the one encouraging young creatives, and eventually, you’ll see your dreams come to fruition as a published writer.

These are just a few insights I wish I could share with my younger self. Life moves forward, and while I didn’t grasp these lessons back in 1995, I’ve certainly learned to appreciate them over time. We all have something to learn from our teenage selves—whether we admire them or not. So, let’s keep our inner 16-year-olds in mind, and let’s be patient with the teens we encounter today.

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In summary, reflect on your past, embrace your journey, and hold onto your dreams, because they are worth pursuing.