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I Want to Take a Break from My Kid, and That’s Totally Fine
Hey there, friends! So, here’s the scoop: next week, I’m heading off on a little getaway with my bestie. And guess what? I honestly won’t miss my kiddo one bit.
We’re off for four glorious days and nights, complete with our own cozy beds and the luxury of long, steamy showers every day. Just picture it: sipping coffee while it’s still steaming hot enough to make your face melt. We’ll soak in hours of adult conversations, sprinkled with natural silence and leisurely bike rides through beautiful nature. I’ll drift off to sleep whenever I feel tired and wake up with the sun, somewhere between the crack of dawn and whenever I feel like rolling out of bed. I can even indulge in that second glass of wine, knowing that the only midnight responsibility I have is to myself.
Sure, I might feel a twinge of longing for my 2-year-old—especially around bedtime, when I know he’ll be snuggling up for some sweet cuddles, filling the room with laughter and songs before drifting off. But honestly, that’s about it.
From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I was eager to let someone else hold my baby and share the parenting load. I didn’t want to give up all responsibility, but I definitely craved a partner in this journey. (And let me tell you, his dad is the ultimate co-parent—like the Gordon Ramsay of fatherhood!)
The early days were intense. My son faced some serious challenges right after birth, including a stroke that landed him in the NICU. I was devoted, pumping every three hours nonstop and spending nearly all my waking hours by his side. Once he finally came home, I was over the moon but also felt the itch for a little personal space. So, I pumped some milk, entrusted him to my husband for a few hours, and took some time for myself—mostly because my boobs felt like they were about to explode!
Fast forward seven months, and we were navigating life-threatening food allergies, which kept us housebound and filled me with anxiety. I counted down the minutes until my husband arrived or bedtime came around, just so I could escape for a brief moment of solitude.
Even now, with my little one thriving and life feeling more manageable, I still need breaks. It’s vital for me to have space—to process, to think, and to simply not be tethered to anyone or anything for a while. Those moments are rare, but I know they’re essential for my well-being.
I often hear from other moms who feel guilty about wanting time away from their kids, but I just can’t relate. Motherhood can’t be my entire identity; it’s too overwhelming. And if I’m being brutally honest, taking breaks is what helps me reconnect with my desire to be present and engaged when I return. Maybe that sounds selfish or makes me a “bad” mom, but honestly, it keeps me sane.
So, I’m ready to soak in the warmth of hot coffee, enjoy long walks, and relish the kid-free vibes. When I come back home, I’ll be the grounded and engaged mom my little one needs. With a full heart, I can embrace motherhood fully.
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In summary, it’s perfectly okay to take a step back from the demands of parenting to recharge. Recognizing the need for personal space is an important part of being a balanced and engaged parent.