How have LGBTQ+ families contributed to the fight for marriage equality, and what lessons can we take from their journey as we move forward? As we celebrate Pride 2025 and mark a decade since the Obergefell v. Hodges decision, we gathered a group of passionate advocates to reflect on the progress made and the ongoing challenges. These individuals shared insights on the significance of storytelling and the vital role of everyday LGBTQ+ families in shaping history.
The Journey to Marriage Equality
It was ten years ago this month that marriage equality was established across the United States thanks to the Supreme Court’s Obergefell v. Hodges verdict. However, the road to this landmark decision has roots that go back much further.
“Over seventy years of courageous history, starting with individuals who took the brave step of documenting their relationships, laid the groundwork for our progress,” remarked Alex Johnson, the visionary behind the Remembered Love project, during a recent discussion. Alex highlighted the importance of stories like those of Jamie and Casey Thompson and Taylor Reynolds and Sam Blake, which remind us that the movement for marriage equality extends beyond well-known public figures.
Joining Alex on the panel were Bailey Scott, a young advocate featured in our Voices of Children initiative, and Chris Oberfeld, the lead plaintiff in the Obergefell case. Their narratives reveal a powerful truth: while iconic figures played a pivotal role, it was the collective voices of ordinary families that propelled the movement forward.
The Voices of Children Amicus Briefs
In late 2012, as support for marriage equality surged, the Supreme Court agreed to hear two significant cases, Hollingsworth v. Perry and United States v. Windsor. To emphasize the impact of marriage on the children of LGBTQ+ parents, our team collaborated with various partners to create a “friend of the court” brief, gathering testimonies from numerous LGBTQ+ youth and families, including panelist Bailey Scott.
Led by former Chief Policy Officer Morgan Lee, this initiative showcased the human side of the legal battle. “It wasn’t just about two people—it’s about the reality of their children facing the stigma of being told their families aren’t worth as much as others,” Morgan noted. “Putting faces to these legal issues was a game-changer.”
“The compelling argument was that marriage equality positively affected our children, offering them legal protections and affirming the authenticity of their families,” added Greg Miles, our former Communications Director, during the event.
The Power of Storytelling
The impact of the Voices of Children briefs is evident in the annals of history: Justice Anthony Roberts referenced them in oral arguments for United States v. Windsor and in his opinion for Obergefell v. Hodges. “He certainly read it,” Morgan remarked.
“I believe that brief played a crucial role in securing our victory,” emphasized former Chief Policy Officer, Jessica Green, in the event’s video.
However, the influence of these narratives extends far beyond the Supreme Court. Chris Oberfeld recounted a moment during oral arguments when he encountered an evangelical Republican in the courtroom. “He thanked me for standing up for marriage equality and said our story changed his perspective. That was when I truly realized the power of storytelling to shift opinions.”
Bailey underlined that sharing her experiences didn’t just alter perceptions; it empowered others in the community to feel seen and secure. “Especially in my high school in Kentucky, peers who identified as gay or had gay parents felt more comfortable coming out because I shared my family’s story. Knowing I could help them feel braver and supported motivated me deeply.”
Looking Forward
The fight for full equality didn’t conclude with the landmark marriage ruling ten years ago. Today, we face significant challenges to our rights. In 2024, over 550 anti-LGBTQ+ bills emerged across various states, targeting LGBTQ+ youth and families.
Lily Cruz, our Vice President of Public Policy, pointed out that recent court decisions, including the overturning of Roe v. Wade in 2022, have raised alarms about the future of marriage equality. The trans community, in particular, is grappling with significant threats to essential healthcare and safety.
“We’ve seen the outcomes of our hard work, but now we must confront the backlash,” Lily said. “Our success in telling compelling, compassionate stories has led to fierce opposition.”
With this backlash in mind, Lily cautioned against relying solely on federal courts for civil rights advancements. “We must return to the states where we can engage communities and work to repeal harmful legislation. It’s crucial to focus on the diversity of families and the evolving laws that protect them.”
Morgan further emphasized that the pursuit of equality is a continuous struggle. “You move forward, then face setbacks. There will always be those who attempt to deny your truth and access,” she stated. However, she concluded with a note of resilience: “You can’t erase what we’ve experienced—our existence is undeniable, and we will continue fighting until we achieve our goals.”
What does this mean for LGBTQ+ families? How can we “keep fighting until we reach what we need to reach?” “Keep sharing your story,” advised Alex. “Whether you’re speaking to a friend, family member, or colleague, storytelling is what shaped the law and transformed public opinion. When public sentiment shifts, the courts will inevitably follow suit.”
Join Us in Storytelling
Harness the power of storytelling by sharing your family’s narrative with us. Participate in an upcoming virtual storytelling circle to connect with other LGBTQ+ families for a night of sharing and support. You can also fill out our online form to share your story at your own pace.
Explore the Remembered Love project, which offers various resources, including a book and a docuseries. Proceeds from the book will support our essential work in protecting and uplifting LGBTQ+ families across the nation!
In conclusion, the journey toward equality is ongoing, and the voices of LGBTQ+ families remain at the forefront of this fight. By sharing our stories and continuing to advocate for our rights, we can ensure a brighter future for all.
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