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From a Pediatrician to Moms Facing Breastfeeding Challenges
Being a new mom is a whirlwind of experiences, and I remember three key things from those first few months. First, if your baby has a messy diaper, avoid pulling their onesie over their head—trust me, it’s a recipe for disaster. Second, sleep deprivation hit hard, making me realize those lazy weekend naps were officially a thing of the past. And third, the hardest part was the emotional struggle and guilt I felt while trying to breastfeed.
As a pediatrician, I spent my days discussing breastfeeding with parents and highlighting its benefits. However, I didn’t truly grasp the challenges many mothers faced until I encountered them myself. I had envisioned breastfeeding as a beautiful, natural bonding experience, complete with soothing music and warm, fuzzy feelings. Having spent countless hours guiding others, I thought it would come easily to me.
But instead, my experience was far from ideal. My daughter was born in the early morning, and I felt an immediate connection, marking a significant shift in my life. I was thrilled and eager to give her a great start, beginning with breastfeeding. But when I first tried, the pain was overwhelming. We tried different positions, yet the discomfort persisted. My daughter quickly realized she wasn’t getting any milk, and soon, we were both in tears.
I wish I could say it got easier, but it didn’t. I consulted numerous lactation specialists, spoke with fellow physicians, and tried everything from teas to cookies, all in hopes of boosting my milk supply. I scoured the internet for tips and tricks, feeling increasingly frustrated as each feeding became a source of anxiety. I felt like a failure as a mother, especially when I compared myself to other moms who seemed to effortlessly produce milk on demand.
Then, in a moment of clarity, I found myself watching a segment with Jamie Lee Curtis on TV. I realized how ridiculous I was being, pondering whether she had been breastfed. I stepped back and began to observe my own life. If my daughter were in my shoes, I would advise her to practice self-love and compassion. It struck me that I had been so consumed with self-doubt that I was missing the joy of motherhood.
That night, I chose to forgive myself. I recognized that I was doing my best and needed to let go of the guilt. My struggle with breastfeeding taught me the importance of self-compassion—a lesson I remind myself of often. As a pediatrician, I still advocate for breastfeeding, but even more so for self-kindness. I believe that how a mother chooses to feed her child is her decision, as long as she shows love and presence.
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In summary, my breastfeeding journey was not what I expected, but it taught me valuable lessons about self-compassion. Remember, in the midst of motherhood’s challenges, be gentle with yourself and embrace the journey.