I Really Did Want to Attend Your Gathering!

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For the third time this year, I’ve RSVP’d to a party and then pulled a no-show—a bit embarrassing, right? To be fair, these were large events—casual cocktail gatherings, Halloween festivities, and school fundraisers—the kind of parties where my absence might not be noticed. Yet, my yes-then-no behavior leaves me feeling guilty. I’m not skipping out on a lavish wedding or an intimate dinner, but that doesn’t make it right. I did RSVP “yes.” The hosts are expecting me. Honestly, I really wanted to be there!

Ironically, I’m usually quite particular about manners and etiquette. I still handwrite my holiday cards because I believe in the personal touch. I take the time to pen sincere thank-you notes and thoughtful letters of condolence when someone experiences a loss. I’ve never missed a volunteer shift or a carpool without a legitimate reason.

So why do I—a person who knows how inconsiderate it is to flake out—end up doing just that?

Not too long ago, after a week filled with the endless cycle of parenting duties—diaper changes, snack making, tantrum managing, laundry folding—I was eager to attend any party. A fundraiser for the March of Dimes? Count me in! A tea for my neighbor’s mother-in-law’s dog? Sure! Baby shower? Wedding shower? Yes, yes, yes! The chance to socialize with adults felt like a refreshing break.

But things have changed. I’m no longer spending my days with my kids. They’re busy with homework, sports, and hanging out with friends. My life has shifted from needing to escape the house for social interaction to wanting to just catch a moment of peace.

So now, when I receive an invitation, I feel excited! I adore these hosts! The guest list looks fantastic! Everyone I enjoy will be there. The theme? Perfect!

Then, as the night approaches, I start to lose my enthusiasm. After a long week of working, driving the kids around, and juggling a million tasks, I find myself drained. When my family finally comes home, it feels like the first time I’ve really seen them all week. We’re together. Shouldn’t I savor this?

That’s when I start to question my plans. Would it be so bad to just stay in and enjoy some family time? I’ve been feeling a bit out of shape in my clothes, and my favorite outfit is at the dry cleaners. Plus, it’s just too chilly for the cute shoes I own. And let’s be honest—everyone else probably has fabulous costumes planned, and I don’t even have one.

Then the doubts creep in. No one will even notice if I don’t go, right? They probably don’t think I fit in anyway. Maybe they think I talk too much or eat too many chips. So, maybe they’d be better off without me, right?

But the truth is, what keeps me home is the realization that I cherish these family moments. Time is flying by, and before I know it, my oldest will be off to college. I want to soak up every minute with my boys while I still can.

So yes, I’m missing out on some parties. I know I should probably just RSVP “no,” but deep down, I do plan to attend. I often do show up when I say I will. But for those nights when I don’t make it? Maybe it’s okay to embrace the choice to stay home and enjoy my family time. And who knows, perhaps the hosts will also choose family over socializing on another night. I promise I’ll understand.

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In summary, sometimes we prioritize family time over social events, and that’s perfectly okay. It’s important to embrace those moments spent with loved ones, even if it means missing a party or two.