Aging in Place: Supporting Our Parents from Afar

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If your parent is facing health challenges and you’re not nearby, you might have found yourself in a conversation that goes something like this:

“How did your doctor’s appointment go?”

“Fine, I guess,” your parent replies.

“Did the doctor have any insights?”

“I’m not really sure. They mentioned more tests.”

“What about the previous tests? Did you get any results?”

“Not yet.”

“Why not? Are they still processing?”

“I don’t know. I didn’t catch what she said.”

“Who? The doctor? The receptionist?”

“Maybe she was a nurse.”

“What was her name?”

“Something like Barilla? Or was it Barillo? Like the pasta.”

“So what’s next?”

“I’m not sure.”

Reassuring, right? Many of us have had similar conversations with our parents or grandparents, and it can be incredibly frustrating when you’re trying to help from a distance. With the added challenge of HIPAA regulations, it’s tough to get the information you need to support them adequately.

As members of the “sandwich generation,” many of us find ourselves juggling the care of young children while also worrying about our aging parents. According to Ai-jen Poo in her insightful book, The Age of Dignity, the U.S. is heading toward an eldercare crisis. As the baby boomer generation ages, there will be a substantial number of elderly individuals who may need assistance with daily tasks or even extensive care. However, there are limited systems in place for those who wish to “age in place,” which is defined by the Centers for Disease Control as the ability to live safely and independently in their own homes.

One of the core issues stems from our health insurance structure, which often fails to provide ongoing assistance for seniors who need daily support. For instance, if your mother requires someone to check in on her daily to ensure she’s taking care of herself, she may not receive the help she needs.

Poo suggests several solutions, many of which have been successfully implemented in other countries. In Japan, for example, everyone aged 65 can apply for benefits and undergo an assessment to qualify for varying levels of care. This approach acknowledges that age-related decline is often a long-term challenge that cannot be resolved with just a few home health aide visits.

In the U.S., some communities are finding creative ways to address the aging-in-place dilemma. The Brookings Institution highlighted the concept of “villages,” which are networks designed to support senior citizens while they remain in their own homes. Members pay dues to gain access to services such as transportation, social events, and assistance with tasks like grocery shopping or setting up technology. While these initiatives are not widespread, they offer valuable support, especially in urban areas.

It’s clear that a significant overhaul is needed in how we care for our aging population—one that emphasizes dignity and fair wages for eldercare workers. In the meantime, resources like the Village to Village network can help bridge the gaps. They offer services like a “medical notetaker,” which might be just the kind of assistance that could make a difference for families like mine.

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In summary, while navigating the challenges of supporting aging parents from a distance can be overwhelming, there are resources and solutions available. Whether through community initiatives or simply keeping the lines of communication open, we can help our loved ones maintain their independence and dignity.