Real Talk: Newborn 101 for New Moms

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Updated: Feb. 10, 2023

Originally Published: November 28, 2021

Navigating the world of pregnancy and newborns can feel overwhelming. Between a million parenting books, blogs, and websites, you might think you’re fully equipped with “Newborn 101” know-how. Sleep when your baby sleeps. Feed them 8 to 12 times a day. Accept help wherever you can. Stock up your freezer. Don’t even think about sleep-training a newborn. The list goes on and on.

However, no amount of reading can prepare you for the reality of life with a newborn—especially your first. It’s like joining an exclusive club that comes with some intense initiation rites. No amount of frozen meals or neatly organized baby clothes can give you a clue about what’s actually in store.

Telling your friends about this truth can be tough, so I’ve compiled some advice that you won’t find on those countless websites or in any parenting books—real advice from a mom who’s been through the wringer twice.

1. Prepare for Tears: Stock up on tissues. You’ll cry a lot—maybe not as much as your baby, but close. Your hormones will be all over the place, and you’ll find yourself tearing up over the silliest things. Don’t worry; it’ll get better soon.
2. Forget the Cloth Diapers: Store those eco-friendly diapers away for a bit. Newborn poop is a whole different ball game, and the last thing you want to do is deal with washing cloth diapers every day. Save them for when your baby is a bit older.
3. Get Quality Nursing Pads: Invest in good nursing pads. You’ll be surprised by how often you’ll have milk letdowns at the most improbable moments—like when you hear a cat meow from across the street!
4. Change Diapers Wisely: Always use your changing pad. Your little one seems to have a sixth sense for knowing when they’re being changed, and diaper mishaps can get messy.
5. Take a Shower: Even if it’s just a quick rinse, a hot shower can do wonders for your sanity. Strap the baby in their bouncer and take a moment for yourself.
6. Get Outside Daily: Make it a point to leave the house every day, even if it’s just for a brief walk. Putting on real clothes and getting fresh air can lift your spirits immensely.
7. Step Away from the Books: Seriously, put down those parenting books and blogs for a few days. Too much information can be paralyzing, and the conflicting advice will only leave you confused.
8. Enjoy a Drink: If you want a beer or a glass of wine, go for it. Contrary to popular belief, a little alcohol while nursing isn’t the end of the world. It might even help you unwind in those challenging postpartum days.
9. Ask for Help: Don’t hesitate to ask for assistance when you need it. People genuinely want to help but often don’t know how. Whether it’s picking up groceries or running errands, speak up!
10. Take Some “Me” Time: Running to the grocery store can feel like a mini-vacation. Embrace those moments away from your baby, even if you love them dearly.
11. Live in the Moment: Try not to wish away those early days. They may be tough, but they’re fleeting. Soon enough, your tiny newborn will be a walking, talking toddler, and you might find yourself nostalgic for those simpler times.

Now, stop reading, take a shower, and head outside for a bit. And if you’re interested in learning more about home insemination, check out this informative piece on intrauterine insemination. Don’t forget to visit Make a Mom for insights on boosting fertility and get more tips on your journey.

In summary, being a new mom is a wild ride filled with unexpected challenges and emotions. Embrace the chaos, ask for help when you need it, and don’t forget to take care of yourself along the way.