6 Realities for Moms Raising Twins

Ah, the adventure of being a twin mom! Whether you were over the moon to learn you had two little ones on the way or were completely caught off guard (guilty as charged), there’s no doubt that navigating life with twins brings its own special hurdles. Surviving a twin pregnancy is just the tip of the iceberg. Once those babies arrive, the real fun begins! Caring for two infants while running on empty is a true test of endurance and patience—so much so that I can barely recall any details from those early years (seriously, it’s a blur).

But amid the chaos, raising twins is also filled with laughter, joy, and unexpected moments of fun. Yes, you’ll encounter a fair share of unsolicited advice from strangers while pushing your hefty double stroller, and there will be days when you wonder if you can survive until bedtime without losing it completely. But here’s the deal: you’ll adapt. You have to, or else the whirlwind of twin motherhood will sweep you away.

As my fraternal twins approach their third birthday, I’ve come to realize that there are certain truths only moms of multiples can truly grasp:

1. You’ll inevitably have a favorite twin.

And it will always be the one who is currently behaving. Of course, you love them both equally, but let’s face it—you won’t feel that way all the time. There will be one child who decides to be an absolute angel while the other throws a tantrum, and that’s the one you’ll be more inclined to adore at that moment. Thankfully, it usually flips back and forth, restoring balance to your twin mom heart.

2. You might start feeling like a mini traveling circus.

People are fascinated by twins, which can be fun most of the time, but it can also feel overwhelming. You’ll get a ton of looks and the same questions repeated endlessly (yes, stranger in the grocery store, I know I’ve got my hands full!). It’s hard not to feel like a bit of a spectacle, especially with the noise levels and the likelihood of epic meltdowns, but at least you’ll never be bored!

3. Some days, your home will resemble a daycare.

Seriously, how do professional caregivers manage to look so composed? I can barely keep it together with my two rambunctious toddlers! My house is often chaotic, and I sometimes struggle to find my cool. Just the thought of people who make a living caring for energetic kids makes my head spin.

4. You’ll recruit anyone and everyone to help out.

I know moms who wouldn’t let anyone else take care of their little ones for ages, but with twins? That’s just not realistic. From the moment the twins came home, it was all hands on deck. If someone offers to babysit, I’m all for it! My kids are used to hanging out with family and friends, and it’s a relief to have extra hands around. It truly takes a village, right?

5. Get ready for a messy house and a car that looks like it’s been through a tornado.

Some moms have pristine homes, but I’m not one of them. I used to stress about keeping everything tidy, but I realized it was futile. As soon as the twins wake up, the mess reappears like magic. My car, on the other hand, is a mystery of toys, snacks, and who knows what else. But hey, at least I’m prepared for anything!

6. You can’t imagine life with just one child and wouldn’t change a thing.

While having twins can be challenging, sometimes I think singleton parents are missing out on something incredible. Not only do I get to witness the antics of two amazing little humans, but they also have a built-in best friend. It was a surprise to have two at once, and while I might not have chosen it, I’m grateful for this wild ride.

As my twins edge closer to the threenager phase, my partner and I are constantly amazed by the whirlwind that is twin parenting. Sure, it’s exhausting, but those sweet moments—like when they hold hands or share snacks—make it all worth it. This twin experience is uniquely its own, and only fellow twin moms can truly understand the highs and lows.

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Summary

Raising twins is a unique mix of challenges and joys that only fellow twin parents can truly appreciate. From the inevitable favorite twin to the chaos of everyday life, this journey is filled with laughter, heartwarming moments, and a lot of mess. It’s a wild ride, but one that’s worth every moment.